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If your family feels like a beautifully chaotic ADHD ecosystem — grandparents, parents, kids, everyone with big feelings and lost keys — this episode is going to hit home in the best, most validating way.

In this must-listen replay, I sit down with Jami Goldfarb Shapiro, ADHD expert, coach, and author of the brand-new book This Explains So Much: Understanding Undiagnosed ADHD for People Who Have Too Much, Feel Too Much, or Have Been Told They Are Too Much.

Together, we dive into what ADHD looks like across generations, why so many adults were missed or misunderstood growing up, and how those undiagnosed patterns shape parenting, communication, emotional triggers, and family dynamics today. This conversation is funny, real, and wildly eye-opening — especially if you're spending the holidays surrounded by multiple generations of neurodivergent energy under one roof.

We talk about:

• The signs of ADHD in parents and grandparents who were never diagnosed
• How undiagnosed ADHD impacts family relationships, communication, and conflict
• The emotional inheritance ADHD families carry (and how to break the cycle)
• Why understanding your own ADHD helps you parent differently
• How to build connection and compassion across the ADHD family tree

Whether you're navigating holiday chaos, reflecting on your own late diagnosis, or raising ADHD kids while healing your own childhood, this episode will feel like a warm, “ohhhh THAT makes sense now” hug for your brain.

Grab a cozy drink, hide in the laundry room if you must, and let’s unpack the generational ADHD story no one ever told you — until now.

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