If your relationship feels like a never-ending DIY project and you keep wishing your partner would just “get it together”—this one’s for you.

In this episode, I’m unpacking the difference between wanting to change your spouse and wanting to change your relationship. We dive into the unchangeables—like personality traits, core values, and past experiences—and contrast them with the very changeable dynamics of how you communicate, collaborate, and show up in your love space. It’s about shifting from “if only they would…” to “how can we grow together?”—because real relationship magic happens when both people are tweaking, teaming up, and showing up with shared effort, not a one-sided renovation plan.

Relationships are an adventure—ready for a check-in? Take this fun quiz to see how strong your bond is & discover new ways to keep the spark alive!

About the Host:

Meet Crystal, your relationship and social health coach. Crystal is the founder of Sparked Forever Relationship & Singles coaching. She started her journey supporting the neurodiverse community in navigating this, sometimes frustrating, neurotypical social world. Lessons and inspiration from her earlier work drives Crystal’s passion for bringing couples and singles together through acceptance, understanding and big picture thinking to grow vibrant relationships. Crystal understands that the foundation for our social health and well-being starts with making connections to others. When Crystal is not working with couples, she loves to be out on adventures with her partner and bonus kids or spending time connecting with friends over good food and fun music.

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