You can’t out-think your emotions — but you can change your relationship with them. In this episode, I share a simple exercise that helps you stop fighting uncomfortable feelings and start making space for them instead. Pursuing a meaningful life doesn’t mean you’ll feel good all the time, it means learning to coexist with discomfort without letting it control you. This episode will show you how calm starts not by pushing feelings away, but by welcoming them home.

Key insights:

• Every emotion in you is a child. Some loud, some quiet. None of them deserves to be cast out
• Chronic emotions are just feelings that never got permission to pass
• You don’t have to like your feelings. You just have to make room for them.

Timestamps

00:30 — Why a meaningful life includes uncomfortable emotions.
01:51 — Writing exercise: listing and acknowledging all the emotional “children.”
05:31 — Why rejecting emotions makes them stronger and more dominant.
07:25 — Kindness narrative: Gifts from an architect.

For full shownotes, including resources mentioned, go to: https://www.calmyourcaveman.com/episodes/parent-your-feelings-dont-punish-them

Submit Your Kindness Narrative:

• Share a moment of kindness that moved you or changed you.
• Email your story (written or audio) to calmyourcaveman@gmail.com or
• DM me on Instagram @CalmYourCaveman.

Are your emotions trying to help you — or just hijacking your day? In this episode, we break down a clear, science-backed way to know when to trust your emotions and when to let them pass like weather.

You'll learn:
• Why emotions aren’t commands, they’re information
• How to uncover what matters more than how you feel in the moment
• A practical framework for deciding whether to act, or simply observe
• Why you don't need to wait to feel better in order to start living your life

Timestamps
00:30 — The core question: Should I act on this emotion or not?
02:00 — Why chasing happiness backfires.
03:18 — What research says produces real well-being.
04:40 — Values vs. feelings: the powerful “If fear weren’t an issue…” questions.
06:52 — When to ride the emotion vs. when to wait and watch.
09:10 — Kindness narrative: Money just in time.

For full shownotes, including resources mentioned, go to: https://www.calmyourcaveman.com/episodes/when-to-trust-your-emotions

We all tell ourselves, “I’ll be happy when…” — when the job changes, when the move happens, when life finally clicks into place. But what if you didn’t have to wait? In this episode, I share a powerful exercise to build agency, reduce anxiety, and support both mental and physical health. You’ll learn how to find meaning in the middle of uncertainty, feel grounded before the outcome arrives, and start living the life you want — right now, not “someday.”

🔑 Key Ideas
•Happiness based on future achievements keeps you stuck in dissatisfaction.
•Values, unlike goals, are ongoing directions—not destinations.
•Acting according to values (even in small ways) provides immediate fulfillment.
•Use the question “I’ll be happy when…” to uncover what truly matters most.

Timestamps:
00:30 — The “I’ll be happy when” mindset.
01:41 — What psychology research teaches about real fulfillment.
02:18 — Goals vs. values: the key difference.
03:44 — Story of Jeff: I’ll be happy when I’m rich.
06:59 — My story: I’ll be happy when I move.
11:37 — How to feel fulfillment today.
14:18 — Kindness narrative: Caring for the overlooked

For full shownotes, including resources mentioned, go to: https://www.calmyourcaveman.com/episodes/stop-postponing-happiness