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  • Naming What Hurt Us Opens the Door to Power and Belonging

    Naming What Hurt Us Opens the Door to Power and Belonging
    2026/08/09
    This episode sits with the weird, messy middle that shows up when you finally stop hiding parts of yourself and let old family rules or corporate “shoulds” melt away. Instead of blaming anyone for staying quiet, the conversation looks at how silence and keeping things in are baked into culture—not something we randomly choose.Denise Soler Cox shares how writing her book pushed her to break through the old survival mode—and what can happen when we let honest stories come up.Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereDo you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Denise on all things social: InstagramLinkedInThreadsFollow Cafe con Pam on all things social:DiezveladaInstagramFacebookSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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    1 時間 12 分
  • You’re Overloaded Because You’re the Most Capable, Not Because You Lack Boundaries

    You’re Overloaded Because You’re the Most Capable, Not Because You Lack Boundaries
    2026/08/02
    Pam recognizes the hidden cost of being the “most competent woman in the room”—not as a personal flaw, but as a predictable result of systems that over-rely on reliability.

    This episode names the ways competence fuels silent overload, unpacking how workplace cultures reward self-sacrifice and disguise overwork as virtue. The true problem isn’t boundaries—it’s unpaid, unseen labor expected from those who’ve learned to answer before being asked.

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

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    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*

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    22 分
  • Surviving Scarcity Can Teach You to Thrive, Not Just Survive

    Surviving Scarcity Can Teach You to Thrive, Not Just Survive
    2026/07/26
    This episode sits with the quiet ways survival mode shapes generations — not from personal failure, but from the systems that turn scarcity and silence into a way of life. Charly Stoever opens up about navigating identity, money, and belonging as a queer, formerly undocumented kid, noticing how the body holds it all.Together, we trace how communal care, rest, and joy can interrupt what we’ve been taught about grinding our way to safety.Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereDo you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Charly on all things social: InstagramJoin NewsletterUnicon MillionaireFollow Cafe con Pam on all things social:InstagramFacebookSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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  • The loudest voice in the room still carries silence

    The loudest voice in the room still carries silence
    2026/07/19
    Ever notice how even the most confident people suddenly second-guess themselves when it counts? Pam unpacks the sneaky “whisper” that makes us search for proof or outside validation—showing how it’s not about lacking confidence, but about coping with systems that taught us to doubt. It’s not your flaw; it’s the world you had to adapt to.

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

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    To support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:
    • What do you love about the show?
    • What were you expecting before you listened?
    • What happened after you listened?
    • How would you describe the show to your best friend?
    If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:
    1. Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.
    2. Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.com
    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*

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    22 分
  • Collaboration Isn’t Compromise: How Bridging Political Divides Protects Community Power

    Collaboration Isn’t Compromise: How Bridging Political Divides Protects Community Power
    2026/07/12
    Councilmember Imelda Padilla knows the unique pressure—and privilege—of coming home as the leader for her own community. In this episode of Cafe con Pam, she flips the usual story: it’s not just about the challenges of being a Latina in politics, but about how hard it is for whole neighborhoods to feel like they actually belong in city systems built without them.Bring your cafecito and learn how for Imelda, leadership means making room for real connection and showing how collaboration can change the game, even when the system feels stacked.Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereDo you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Imelda on all things social: InstagramFacebookXYouTubeFollow Cafe con Pam on all things social:InstagramFacebookSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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  • You’re Not Failing Your Family: You’re Rebuilding Your Dignidad

    You’re Not Failing Your Family: You’re Rebuilding Your Dignidad
    2026/07/05
    This week, Pam gets real about how hard it is to set boundaries with family when our culture tells us those boundaries shouldn’t exist.

    Instead of blaming ourselves for feeling guilty or overwhelmed, she points out how these pressures are part of a bigger system—a system that expects us to always show up, even if it means erasing parts of who we are. This is an honest look at how we can start to protect our own energy without letting guilt run the show.

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

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    To support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:
    • What do you love about the show?
    • What were you expecting before you listened?
    • What happened after you listened?
    • How would you describe the show to your best friend?
    If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:
    1. Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.
    2. Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.com
    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*


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    35 分
  • When You Name the System, Agency and Belonging Show Up with Emilia Huerta-Sanchez

    When You Name the System, Agency and Belonging Show Up with Emilia Huerta-Sanchez
    2026/06/28
    In this episode of Cafe con Pam, Pam notices how true freedom feels different when you’ve had to build it for yourself—especially when you grow up balancing family expectations, cultural traditions, and new systems in a new country. Emilia Huerta-Sanchez shares what it’s like to find independence as a first-gen Mexican immigrant, navigate old-school ideas of respect and silence, and eventually decode what our DNA (and family blueprints) really carry with them. Instead of blaming anyone for feeling lost or unsure, this conversation sheds light on the bigger systems—family, culture, academia—that quietly shape so many of our choices.Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereDo you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Science Wise Pod on all things social:WebsiteInstagramApple Podcast PageFollow Cafe con Pam on all things social:InstagramFacebookSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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    1 時間 7 分
  • The Certainty Gap Explained: It’s Not You, It’s the Missing Manual

    The Certainty Gap Explained: It’s Not You, It’s the Missing Manual
    2026/06/21
    In this solo episode of Cafe con Pam, Pam gets real about why so many first-gen Latinas feel like they have a “confidence problem”—and flips the script by calling out what it really is: an instruction problem.

    Through her own stories of navigating life in the U.S., writing essays without a roadmap, and learning from the women in her family who always cooked “al tanteo” (by feel), Pam shows how most of us have just been figuring things out without ever getting the instructions.

    She shares a super easy calming exercise you can do anywhere, and reminds us all that we’re more resourceful and powerful than we think. If you’ve ever been stuck blaming yourself for not fitting in, this episode is for you.

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

    Check out BMO here

    Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.

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    To support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:
    • What do you love about the show?
    • What were you expecting before you listened?
    • What happened after you listened?
    • How would you describe the show to your best friend?
    If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:
    1. Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.
    2. Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.com
    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*


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    22 分