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  • Guilt Is a Pattern, Not a Character Flaw

    Guilt Is a Pattern, Not a Character Flaw
    2026/11/08
    If saying no makes you feel guilty, you’re not automatically being selfish.

    This episode looks at guilt as a Calladita Culture pattern, one that teaches us to prove love by showing up, carrying everyone’s needs, and ignoring our own limits. Choosing yourself can make it possible to come back with more care and less resentment.

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

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    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*

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    31 分
  • Why Doing More Never Feels Like Enough

    Why Doing More Never Feels Like Enough
    2026/11/01
    If you keep doing more because someone else didn’t do their part, the problem may not be your capacity.

    This episode names the conditioning that trains women to overwork, overdeliver, and carry other people’s responsibilities, even when the body is already saying, “nah, this is not it.”

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

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    • What do you love about the show?
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    • How would you describe the show to your best friend?
    If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:
    1. Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.
    2. Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.com
    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*

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    29 分
  • The Plan Broke, But the Builder Didn’t

    The Plan Broke, But the Builder Didn’t
    2026/10/25
    When life doesn’t follow the plan, it’s easy to treat every missed milestone like proof that you failed.

    This episode looks at what happens when the real issue is a missing map: the system didn’t hand you the information, resources, or context you needed, and what happens to that part of you that wanted the plan.

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

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    To support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:
    • What do you love about the show?
    • What were you expecting before you listened?
    • What happened after you listened?
    • How would you describe the show to your best friend?
    If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:
    1. Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.
    2. Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.com
    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*

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    25 分
  • An Oreo Joke Taught Me to Read the Room | Dr. Ally

    An Oreo Joke Taught Me to Read the Room | Dr. Ally
    2026/10/18
    If you’ve ever changed how you speak, dressed extra carefully, or stayed hyperaware of your surroundings just to move through the world safely, this episode with Dr. Ally will feel very familiar.The conversation looks at code-switching, beauty standards, inherited trauma, and perception, while naming the systems that turn survival adaptations into personal flaws, and what happens when beauty and self-presentation become something we reclaim for ourselves.Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereSpecial Xero offer: Get 90% off for 6 months using this link. Terms & Conditions apply.Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Dr. Ally on all things social: TikTokInstagramLinkedInFollow Cafe con Pam on all things social:InstagramFacebookCalladita Pattern Free AssessmentSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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  • Why Your Body Pulls You Back to the Old You

    Why Your Body Pulls You Back to the Old You
    2026/10/11
    Ever get criticized and suddenly feel your jaw tighten, your shoulders rise, and your old “peleonera” self show up? That pullback doesn’t mean your healing failed. It’s your body returning to an operating system built around familiar patterns, old authority, and survival.This episode breaks down how to pause, find the facts, and let your mind remind your body: we don’t live there anymore.Primas escuchen este episodio de Cafe con Pam y luego hablamos:¿Cuándo fue la última vez que tu cuerpo te jaló de regreso a una versión vieja de ti? When was the last time your body pulled you back to an old version of you? What happened right before?What's your "remind me tomorrow"? The update you keep postponing.Finish this: "We're not there anymore. Now I..."Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereSpecial Xero offer: Get 90% off for 6 months using this link. Terms & Conditions apply.Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Cafe con Pam on all things social:InstagramFacebookThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiCalladita Pattern Free AssessmentSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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    33 分
  • A Piano in a Broom Closet Built a Nonprofit | Sheila Fortson

    A Piano in a Broom Closet Built a Nonprofit | Sheila Fortson
    2026/10/04
    If you’ve ever been told that art is nice but not practical, this episode will hit differently.Sheila Fortson talks about starting music lessons in a $30-a-month broom closet, growing them into a nonprofit, and navigating the pressure small organizations face when the need keeps growing but the funding doesn’t always keep up.Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereSpecial Xero offer: Get 90% off for 6 months using this link. Terms & Conditions apply.Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Sheila on all things social:WebsiteFollow Cafe con Pam on all things social:InstagramFacebookDiezveladaCalladita Pattern Free AssessmentSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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    53 分
  • My Group Chat Died When I Started a Business

    My Group Chat Died When I Started a Business
    2026/09/27
    If you’ve ever looked at your group chat and thought, “I have people, but I don’t know who I can actually tell,” this episode puts language to that feeling.

    The conversation explores how climbing, changing, and outgrowing old dynamics can leave your walls thinner, and why moving someone to a different seat in your life isn’t the same as cutting them off.

    Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at www.savvyladies.org

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    To support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:
    • What do you love about the show?
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    If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:
    1. Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.
    2. Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.com
    Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!

    *The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*


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    24 分
  • After 22 Years in Corporate, She Chose Clean Beauty | Oni Auer

    After 22 Years in Corporate, She Chose Clean Beauty | Oni Auer
    2026/09/20
    The 12-step beauty routine isn’t proof that you’re doing self-care wrong. It’s an industry system built to sell more products, while opaque ingredients, weak regulation, and corporate sustainability theater keep consumers working harder to protect themselves.This conversation follows the decision to leave work that no longer felt meaningful, build a simpler clean beauty brand, and question why speaking plainly gets punished in systems built on silence.Thank you to Savvy Ladies for supporting Cafe con Pam. Savvy Ladies is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women take control of their financial future. Check out their free financial helpline at savvyladies.orgCheck out BMO hereDo you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.Follow Oni on all things social: WebsiteInstagramTikTokFollow Cafe con Pam on all things social:DiezveladaInstagramFacebookSubscribe on YouTubeListen to Cafe con PamTake our Calladita Culture®️ QuizGet your business on El MercaditoLearn more about PamThe Unmuted EraDiscover your IkigaiTo support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:What do you love about the show?What were you expecting before you listened?What happened after you listened?How would you describe the show to your best friend?If you are new here, welcome! I hope you feel like you’re at home, and come back to drink a cup of coffee with us. Let’s stay connected:Social media. Follow @cafeconpampodcast on Instagram and Facebook.Learn more about our work and other stories at cafeconpam.comListeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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