Why the Thing That Gives You Relief Today Creates Trouble Tomorrow

Avoidance gets a bad rap. But here’s the problem: avoidance works.

Don’t send the email. Don’t make the ask. Don’t have the uncomfortable conversation. Say “it’s fine” and move on.

And almost immediately, you feel better.

That relief is exactly what makes avoidance such an effective self-preservation strategy—and why we keep returning to it. But the thing we avoided rarely disappears. Instead, we may be teaching ourselves that the discomfort itself is something we can’t handle.

In this bite-sized episode of The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser, we look at why avoiding discomfort can feel so good in the moment, how short-term relief can create bigger problems later, and what changes when we become more willing to stay with discomfort instead of immediately trying to escape it.

Because sometimes the very thing you’re doing to protect yourself from discomfort is also protecting you from the result you want.

Your Bypassing Bite:
Where am I choosing short-term relief at the expense of long-term freedom?

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