Thinking Out Loud- Chapter 2: Building Neurodivergent Connections

This is the audio version of my YouTube video released under the same title.

How do we build meaningful connections with other people—especially when connection itself can feel unpredictable, complicated, or emotionally expensive?

In Chapter 2 of my "Thinking Out Loud" series, we explore different ways of approaching connection while staying grounded in authenticity, compatibility, and self-acceptance.

Part 1 — The Chooser or the "Choosee?"

"Choosee" isn't a real word, but it's fun and RELEVANT in this context-- so let's use it! 🥰

Are you someone who naturally chooses the people you want to connect with, or are you more comfortable being chosen?

We explore the different roles people can occupy when relationships form—and why being a "choosee" isn't the same thing as being a pick-me.

And something additional that I realized days later about whether or not people initiate the connection and my thoughts on whether that's good, bad, or neither.

Part 2 — RSD & the Need for Predictability

For some people, repeatedly putting themselves out there and risking rejection can come with a significant emotional cost. What happens when the conventional advice to “just put yourself out there” simply isn't working? And what might happen if we tried a different approach?

Part 3 — Internal Acceptance Can Lead to External Acceptance

Building connection with others can sometimes begin with building a stronger connection with ourselves. We explore internal acceptance, toxic relationships, fear of rejection, valuing our own company, and becoming more intentional about what we choose to share with others.

This chapter isn't about finding one correct way to make friends, form relationships, or connect with other people.

It's about recognizing that even within the neurodivergent community, we AREN'T all wired the same way.

Some of us initiate. Some of us respond. Some need more predictability. Some are comfortable with risk. Some need a small, intimate circle, and some of us may move between all of those roles throughout our lives.

The goal isn't to force yourself into someone else's version of connection. It's to understand yourself well enough to find the kind of connection that works for you.

Along the way, you may discover that meaningful connection doesn't require you to abandon your authenticity.

If you prefer video format, please check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@NDCoachCatherine

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