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  • Retired RCMP Sergeant: How to Ask for Help When You're the Strong One | Tammy Ward

    Retired RCMP Sergeant: How to Ask for Help When You're the Strong One | Tammy Ward
    2026/08/27
    Why is asking for help so difficult when everyone knows you as the strong one?

    For years, Tammy Ward knew how to keep going. After 24 years in the Royal Canadian Mounted Police (RCMP), she had learned how to respond under pressure, lead other people through difficult situations, and keep showing up even while carrying things no one else could see.

    Until carrying everything alone started working against her.

    In this episode of Build Regardless™, Tammy and Vanessa explore the hidden cost of always being dependable, why capable people struggle to ask for help, and what resilience looks like when strength no longer means staying silent.

    This is a conversation for anyone who has become so accustomed to taking care of everyone else that they have forgotten how to let someone take care of them.

    In this episode, you’ll learn:
    • What "I'm fine" may actually be hiding
    • How to ask better questions when someone is struggling
    • Why listening without immediately offering solutions matters
    • How a healthy coping mechanism can quietly become unhealthy
    • What leaders can do to create a genuine safe space in the workplace
    • How to take inventory of what you're carrying before it becomes too much
    • Why highly capable people can struggle to recognize when they are overwhelmed
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    Chapters
    00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Cost of Always Being the Strong One
    02:04 Tammy’s 24-Year Career in the RCMP
    03:00 Joining the RCMP After Being Told She Was Too Small
    04:34 The Emotional Cost of Carrying Trauma Alone
    05:57 Leading Through difficult seasons. Why Strong People Suffer in Silence
    08:55 The Hidden Signs of Trauma Behind the word “I’m Fine”
    13:27 Why Strong People Struggle to Ask for Help and Suffer in Silence
    16:46 Why Asking for Help Feels Like Weakness
    22:30 Your First Brave Conversation: Recognizing You Need Help
    24:33 Finding Mental Health Support That Feels Safe
    26:48 What Strength and Resilience Really Look Like
    29:05 Why “Are You Okay?” Isn’t Enough—and What to Ask Instead
    36:01 How to Listen Without Trying to Fix Someone
    41:20 How Leaders Build Psychological Safety in the Workplace
    47:53 For the ONE listener: How to Know When You’re Carrying Too Much
    54:07 Brutally honest advice for anyone rebuilding their lives
    58:24 Final Message from Vanessa
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    More from Dr. Vanessa Mbamarah
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  • The BuildRegardless Podcast Thriller

    The BuildRegardless Podcast Thriller
    2026/08/19
    What does it truly cost to rebuild your life?

    These are the parts of my story I have never shared—until now. But I’m not telling these stories alone.

    On the BuildRegardless Podcast, I sit down with builders who have faced life-altering interruptions and still found a way to rebuild, lead, and answer their calling. These are honest conversations about the difficult decisions, mindset shifts, systems, and strategies that helped us move through moments that could have stopped us.

    Because rebuilding is not only about what we accomplish after an interruption. It is about who we must become, what we must unlearn, and what we must leave behind to move forward. This space is for those who chose to build regardless.

    Together, we are proof that our circumstances do not get the final say. If you are navigating an interruption, rebuilding after loss, or trying to find your way forward, this is my invitation to you ....... To BuildRegardless.

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    More from Dr. Vanessa Mbamarah
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vmbamarah/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vmbamarah/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vmbamarah
    Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vmbamarah
    Website: https://vanessambamarah.com/
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