What does “masculinity” mean in today’s society? Are we still defining manhood based on the violence of the past, or based on our hopes for the future?

In this episode, Reese and Dennis unpack Equimundo’s study, State of UK Men 2025, exploring how patriarchal expectations, socialization, and emotional stunting shape the daily reality of men today. Why do so many men feel disconnected? We must go back to the underlying issues behind the cultural symptoms to begin unlearning internalized beliefs around dominance, violence, and self-worth are formed.

This conversation dives into:

• Conflicting norms of masculinity
• The dissonance between men’s reported and behaved values
• The illusion of being “the provider”
• Stoicism vs. emotional repression v.s. violence
• Attraction, biology, and unlearning subconscious bias
• Mindfulness as a tool for deprogramming automatic thoughts
• The difference between false purpose and True Purpose
• Emotional alchemy as a tool for cultural healing
• How patriarchy harms men while granting them privilege

If you’re interested in psychology, philosophy, gender, or culture, or if you’re a man trying to make sense of your own inner world, this episode offers grounding, nuance, and a fresh perspective on the complex dynamics facing gendered experiences in the modern world.

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References and Resources:

Equimundo’s State of UK Men Report, 2025: https://www.equimundo.org/resources/state-of-uk-men-2025/

Maxine the Princess on TikTok’s discussion of the Study: https://www.tiktok.com/@maxinetheprincess/video/7572611907115420950?lang=en

Jamaal Burkmar’s Tik Tok discussing the Study and Maxine’s video: https://www.tiktok.com/@jamaalburkmar/video/7572967714742963479?lang=en

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Dennis and Reese

We’ve all seen the clips of churches refusing to give a struggling mom baby formula for her hungry child, but what are the real implications of this experiment? What does this actually tell us about our current society, the state of Christian Nationalism, and our relationship to community?

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• Why so many churches refused the request
• The church leaders attacking the woman
• The witch archetype as resistance and reclamation
• What Jesus actually said vs. what Christians practice
• The loneliness, repression, and fear shaping our culture
• What modern Christianity has become and what we need to do to change it, or ditch it altogether

Whether you’re deconstructing, spiritually curious, or just trying to make sense of the world right now, this episode goes there.

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References and Resources:

Find and support the TikToker, Nikalie Monroe, here: https://www.tiktok.com/@nikalie.monroe

Learn More about Richard Dawkins’ “Cultural Christianity” Claim: https://www.breakpoint.org/richard-dawkins-a-cultural-christian/

Read and Learn More about the Phoenix Pastor’s Offensive Tweet: https://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/news/phoenix-pastor-says-church-shouldnt-help-single-mother-whores-40620567/

Learn More about the Louisiana Pastor Claiming the “Spirit of the Witch”: https://www.shreveporttimes.com/story/news/2025/11/11/did-baton-rouge-louisiana-church-deny-mother-baby-formula-for-starving-baby-tiktok-social-experiment/87212519007/

Learn More About the Tik Tok Trend and Appalachian Pastor Johnny Dunbar: https://ca.news.yahoo.com/tiktoker-calling-churches-see-help-184321348.html

Learn More about Dropping U.S. Birth Rates: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/us-birth-rate-all-time-low-cdc-data/

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Dennis and Reese

How many times have you been told “You’re being too sensitive” or asked “Are you on your period?” How many times have you said these things? In this deeply honest and fiery episode, Reese and Dennis flip the script on classic gendered micro-aggressions. Drawing from their own experiences, emotional intelligence research, IFS Parts-Work, and an open-hearted desire to improve relationships, they unpack gender dynamics and how digging deep is the way to truly deepen connection.

If you're interested in the male loneliness epidemic, the embarrassment of boyfriends, conscious partnership, gender dynamics, emotional depth, and unlearning cultural patterns that keep us disconnected, this episode is for you. Whether you’re a man trying to “get it,” a woman tired of being dismissed, or someone navigating relational sensitivity from any gender, you’ll leave with practical tools and a deeper understanding of each other.

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week. Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

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References and Resources:

How to Piss off Women by The Pissoff Krew: https://www.amazon.com/How-Piss-Off-Women-Clueless/dp/B0F9SSDTYW

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Why do men mistake anger for power? And how can humor, play, and philosophy help us heal the wounds beneath the rage? Reese Brown and Dennis dive deep into Kyle Prue’s ”How to Piss Off Men,” exploring masculinity, anger, emotional literacy, and the playful path toward dismantling the patriarchy.

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week.

Please learn more about Kyle Prue and support his work: https://kyleprue.com

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References and Resources:

Read “How to Piss Off Men”: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/197036073-how-to-piss-off-men

Introduction to Emotional Bids from The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/an-introduction-to-emotional-bids-and-trust/

More from The Gottman Institute on Bids: https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/

Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong (where she discusses, “the story I’m telling myself…”): https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23317538-rising-strong

An essay on Brené Brown’s “The story I’m telling myself…”: https://www.livmindfully.com/new-blog/2025/6/4/the-story-im-telling-myself

Tik Tok discussing Dating App Hot Takes from Angelica on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@an9ele/video/7561154002579197191

Follow the Creator: https://www.tiktok.com/@an9ele

Listen to Our Discussion of Free Will: https://youtu.be/Wyn5JSBUE9g

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Dennis and Reese

Esther’s story isn’t the tale of sweet obedience your Sunday School teacher told you. It’s a complex, political, and feminist **narrative about women navigating power in a patriarchal system.

In this episode of Bow Down, Reese and Dennis unpack the Book of Esther through a feminist and deconstructionist lens, exploring Vashti’s revolutionary “no,” Esther’s strategic “yes,” and what both reveal about women, autonomy, and power in faith communities.

In this episode, we explore…

• Why Vashti’s defiance still scares the church
• How Esther’s silence and strategy challenge purity culture
• The “obedience” myth and Christian control narratives
• Why deconstructing scripture is an act of liberation

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week. Subscribe for more feminist deconstruction conversations that challenge faith, reclaim spirituality, and center women’s voices!

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References and Resources:

Read The Book of Esther: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Esther 1&version=NIV

Marion Ann Taylor, Professor of the Old Testament at Wycliff College and Author of “Esther” in “The Story of God Bible Commentary,” on Vashti: https://youtu.be/f6QGxfZ0SIo?si=ALqpnXcOARYgEsta

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Dennis and Reese

In this episode of Bow Down, Reese Brown and Dennis dive deep into the viral ”Tradwife*”* trend, the so-called ”male loneliness epidemic,” and what “authentic masculinity” really looks like in 2025.

From choice feminism to the shame surrounding vulnerability and sex work, Reese and Dennis unpack how social media shapes our ideas of gender, power, and love — and what it takes to live authentically in an algorithm-driven world.

A HUGE thank you to DevidMiller62 on TikTok for inspiring this episode! Please go support his work!

Drop your thoughts in the reviews: do you think the “tradwife” trend empowers or misleads?

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week. Subscribe for honest conversations about modern identity, feminism, and spiritual growth.

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References and Resources:

Watch the Orginial Tik Tok and Support @devidmiller62: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTM9kgWDu/

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Dennis and Reese

At the height of the “Male Loneliness Epidemic,” and when getting married is provably the most detrimental financial and health decision a woman can make, did we need a movie where the our leading lady must pick a man in the face of the false dichotomy between love and money? Maybe, maybe not, but it certainly gave us a lot of talk about!

In this episode of Bow Down, Reese and Dennis unpack Materialists, the new film stirring up heated debates about love, money, power, and feminism.

They dive into:

• Whether you can truly have both emotional and financial security
• How gender, class, and modern dating culture shape our idea of “love”
• The ethics of matchmaking and how money complicates relationships
• What this movie reveals about male vulnerability
• Why some viewers adored it — and others couldn’t stand it

It’s a vulnerable, insightful, and sometimes spicy discussion about love in the age of luxury and late-stage capitalism.

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week.

Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

To work with Reese: https://www.thecoherecollective.com/coherent-design

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References and Resources:

Watch Materialists: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mxTcRHNlHQM

Dr. Brené Brown on Vulnerability: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o

Dr. Brené Brown on Shame v.s. Guilt: https://brenebrown.com/articles/2013/01/15/shame-v-guilt/

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Dennis and Reese

What do Twilight, Game of Thrones, Downton Abbey, and Rick & Morty have in common? They all reveal something about YOU.

In this episode of Bow Down! Dennis and Reese dive into the Open Source Psychometric Character Quiz to discover which iconic fictional characters they are most like — and the results are surprising (and hilarious). From Scarlett O’Hara to Luna Lovegood, Lady Macbeth to Willy Wonka, Sam Obisanya to Moira Rose, this conversation explores:

• Why personality quizzes captivate us
• How fictional characters reflect our archetypes & inner selves
• The divine masculine & feminine through literature and film
• Neurodivergence, survival, and identity in pop culture
• What it means to resonate with “heroes” and “villains”

Whether you’re curious about your own character match or just love hearing passionate banter about movies, TV, and self-discovery — this episode is for you.

Take the test yourself: https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/characters/

Subscribe to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week.

Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

To work with Reese: https://www.thecoherecollective.com/coherent-design

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References and Resources:

Take the test yourself: https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/characters/

With empowered Coherence,

Dennis and Reese