What does “masculinity” mean in today’s society? Are we still defining manhood based on the violence of the past, or based on our hopes for the future?

In this episode, Reese and Dennis unpack Equimundo’s study, State of UK Men 2025, exploring how patriarchal expectations, socialization, and emotional stunting shape the daily reality of men today. Why do so many men feel disconnected? We must go back to the underlying issues behind the cultural symptoms to begin unlearning internalized beliefs around dominance, violence, and self-worth are formed.

This conversation dives into:

• Conflicting norms of masculinity
• The dissonance between men’s reported and behaved values
• The illusion of being “the provider”
• Stoicism vs. emotional repression v.s. violence
• Attraction, biology, and unlearning subconscious bias
• Mindfulness as a tool for deprogramming automatic thoughts
• The difference between false purpose and True Purpose
• Emotional alchemy as a tool for cultural healing
• How patriarchy harms men while granting them privilege

If you’re interested in psychology, philosophy, gender, or culture, or if you’re a man trying to make sense of your own inner world, this episode offers grounding, nuance, and a fresh perspective on the complex dynamics facing gendered experiences in the modern world.

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week. Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

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To work with Dennis: http://heartstoybox.com

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References and Resources:

Equimundo’s State of UK Men Report, 2025: https://www.equimundo.org/resources/state-of-uk-men-2025/

Maxine the Princess on TikTok’s discussion of the Study: https://www.tiktok.com/@maxinetheprincess/video/7572611907115420950?lang=en

Jamaal Burkmar’s Tik Tok discussing the Study and Maxine’s video: https://www.tiktok.com/@jamaalburkmar/video/7572967714742963479?lang=en

Follow Maxine: https://www.tiktok.com/@maxinetheprincess

Follow Jamaal: https://www.tiktok.com/@jamaalburkmar?lang=en

With empowered Coherence,

Dennis and Reese

We’ve all seen the clips of churches refusing to give a struggling mom baby formula for her hungry child, but what are the real implications of this experiment? What does this actually tell us about our current society, the state of Christian Nationalism, and our relationship to community?

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• Why so many churches refused the request
• The church leaders attacking the woman
• The witch archetype as resistance and reclamation
• What Jesus actually said vs. what Christians practice
• The loneliness, repression, and fear shaping our culture
• What modern Christianity has become and what we need to do to change it, or ditch it altogether

Whether you’re deconstructing, spiritually curious, or just trying to make sense of the world right now, this episode goes there.

To work with Reese: https://www.thecoherecollective.com/coherent-design

To work with Dennis: http://heartstoybox.com

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References and Resources:

Find and support the TikToker, Nikalie Monroe, here: https://www.tiktok.com/@nikalie.monroe

Learn More about Richard Dawkins’ “Cultural Christianity” Claim: https://www.breakpoint.org/richard-dawkins-a-cultural-christian/

Read and Learn More about the Phoenix Pastor’s Offensive Tweet: https://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/news/phoenix-pastor-says-church-shouldnt-help-single-mother-whores-40620567/

Learn More about the Louisiana Pastor Claiming the “Spirit of the Witch”: https://www.shreveporttimes.com/story/news/2025/11/11/did-baton-rouge-louisiana-church-deny-mother-baby-formula-for-starving-baby-tiktok-social-experiment/87212519007/

Learn More About the Tik Tok Trend and Appalachian Pastor Johnny Dunbar: https://ca.news.yahoo.com/tiktoker-calling-churches-see-help-184321348.html

Learn More about Dropping U.S. Birth Rates: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/us-birth-rate-all-time-low-cdc-data/

With empowered Coherence,

Dennis and Reese

How many times have you been told “You’re being too sensitive” or asked “Are you on your period?” How many times have you said these things? In this deeply honest and fiery episode, Reese and Dennis flip the script on classic gendered micro-aggressions. Drawing from their own experiences, emotional intelligence research, IFS Parts-Work, and an open-hearted desire to improve relationships, they unpack gender dynamics and how digging deep is the way to truly deepen connection.

If you're interested in the male loneliness epidemic, the embarrassment of boyfriends, conscious partnership, gender dynamics, emotional depth, and unlearning cultural patterns that keep us disconnected, this episode is for you. Whether you’re a man trying to “get it,” a woman tired of being dismissed, or someone navigating relational sensitivity from any gender, you’ll leave with practical tools and a deeper understanding of each other.

Welcome to Bow Down! a podcast by The Cohere Collective that discusses esoteric and empowered feminism every week. Be a part of the Collective and tune in to Bow Down! every week.

To work with Reese: https://www.thecoherecollective.com/coherent-design

To work with Dennis: http://heartstoybox.com

Follow The Cohere Collective:

https://www.instagram.com/thecoherecollective/

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For more information, head to www.thecoherecollective.com

To support The Cohere Collective, head to https://www.thecoherecollective.com/support

References and Resources:

How to Piss off Women by The Pissoff Krew: https://www.amazon.com/How-Piss-Off-Women-Clueless/dp/B0F9SSDTYW

With empowered Coherence,

Dennis and Reese