Is it a healthy boundary, or is it a brick wall built after too many unspoken hurts?

Ten years ago, Natasha Elaine ended a 20-year friendship after one hurt too many. The truth? She had never communicated what needed to change after the first few hurts. By the time the final one landed, she was no longer establishing a boundary.

Baby... it was time for a wall.

In Part 2 of the Faith After Fire series, Natasha continues her conversation with That Therapist Jawn, licensed clinical social worker Psalm McDaniels, about setting healthy boundaries without people-pleasing, overexplaining, or completely cutting ourselves off from connection.

Together, they discuss:

• The fear of losing people when we begin setting boundaries
• The superhero complex many Black women carry
• Why feeling guilty does not necessarily mean you are guilty
• How healthier self-talk helps us communicate clearly
• How therapy helps us recognize repetitive patterns
• The difference between a healthy limit and an impenetrable wall
• Using I-statements with clarity, kindness, and confidence
• Remaining anchored when another person reacts negatively

WORD OF THE WEEK

Relational sovereignty: The ability to remain connected in love while governing your own heart, choices, words, and responses.

We cannot let their lightning trigger our thunder.

REFLECTION QUESTION

Where have I built a wall because I did not know how to communicate a boundary?

Take your answer to God and ask whether that wall needs a door, an additional lock, or permission to remain exactly where it is.

SCRIPTURAL ANCHORS

Psalm 141:3 NIV: “Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips.”

Proverbs 15:1 NIV: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

RESOURCES

Download the Faith After Fire Journal at https://rrwspodcast.com/digital-products

Watch the complete, unedited conversation with Psalm on YouTube as part of the Still Holy, Still Healing series.

Hear the full ICU Radio 97.3 replay, music and all, on Mixcloud by searching RRWS Podcast.

Connect with Psalm on Instagram at @ThatTherapistJawn.

FEATURED SONG

“Rap Like a Girl” by Porsha Love, featuring LaNell Grant, TuKool Tiff, and Tylynn.

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