Over our 24 years of blending, we’ve discovered that every couple needs a clear strategy to get unstuck and move toward the family future they really want. In this conversation, we share a proven approach to aligning around your family's goals, creating a values-based parenting approach, and avoiding the common pitfalls that lead to chaos, resentment, and division.

We know how confusing and lonely blended family life can feel at times—it's complicated! Even with millions of stepfamilies across the country, it can still feel like you’re on an island trying to figure it all out alone.

That’s why in today’s episode—released on National Stepfamily Day—we’re tackling this question: How can you reduce blended family chaos and instead build a united front as a couple while connecting with a supportive community that truly understands?

Additionally, in honor of National Stepfamily Day, we're introducing a special opportunity to join our Blending Together Community free for 30 days, where you’ll benefit from genuine connections, encouragement, and proven strategies that work.

You'll Discover:

• How Parenting ‘by default’ often leads to places you never intended to go. But when you choose to parent with intention, you can guide your family toward the future you truly want.
• The importance of prioritizing a few key family values to create unity, reduce conflict, and avoid getting overwhelmed.
• Practical ways to communicate your values to the kids without lecturing or undermining the stepparent.
• How a values-based approach simplifies discipline and builds long-term character, not just short-term compliance.
• The life-changing difference that comes from being part of a supportive community that understands the unique challenges of blending a family.

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 218. How to Positively Influence Your Kids' Character When Your Ex Undermines Your Values
• CLICK HERE to learn more about our Blending Together Community
• Questions? Email us at: kim@blendedfamilybreakthrough.com

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If you’ve ever felt like the values you’re trying to instill in your kids get undone the moment they step into the other home, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—and we know how discouraging it can feel.

In this episode, we share a powerful tool we first learned from Ron Deal called the Inoculation Strategy. It’s a simple, practical way to prepare your kids to recognize and resist negative influences—without badmouthing or creating loyalty binds.

We’ll walk you through real-life examples from our own blended family journey, explain how to stay in the “neutral zone” while teaching important lessons, and encourage you to keep planting seeds of character even when it seems like they aren’t taking root.

Over time, your kids will internalize what you've instilled—and those intentional lessons will matter more than you think.

You'll Discover:

• The “wild card factor” that often fuels conflict between households
• Two key realities you must accept before using the Inoculation Strategy
• Practical ways to engage your kids by using movies, books, current events, and personal stories as teaching moments that count
• How to avoid loyalty binds and protect your child’s wellbeing while guiding them toward positive values, character traits, and life skills

Resources from this Episode:

• The Smart Stepfamily by Ron Deal
• Episode 207. Four Myths About Parenting When Your Ex Has Different Rules

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Resources

Surviving & Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Patricia Papernow

Episode 217. Feeling Overwhelmed and Powerless? How to Regain Hope with Tools that Heal [with EJ and Tarah Kerwin]

Episode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences

Episode 206. Avoid These 5 Common Pitfalls to Ensure a Successful Partnership

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If you’ve ever wondered why blending a family feels so hard—even when you're "doing everything right"—this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, we connect with EJ and Tarah Kerwin—professional therapists and co-founders of the Relationship Renovation Counseling Center—who open up about the very real and very raw struggles they faced when they merged their lives into one blended family.

Despite all their training, nothing could have prepared them for the emotional rollercoaster of stepparenting, co-parenting, and navigating deep-seated personal triggers.

But they didn’t give up. They got curious. They did the work. And they developed tools that not only brought healing to their own marriage, but are now helping countless couples thrive through their counseling center, podcast, and programs.

This isn’t a story about perfection—it’s a story about partnership, growth, and hope. If you’ve ever felt powerless, stuck, or just plain exhausted, lean in. There’s light at the end of this tunnel.

You'll Discover:

• You aren't alone - even two trained therapists struggled to understand and work through the challenges of blending
• How to reduce tension in your relationship and move toward healthy communication and partnership
• Helpful mindsets for moving beyond resentment and dread when your step-kids come for visitation
• A path to freedom by learning to recognize your own painful emotions - and nurture yourself through them
• The value of doing repair work with kids when we mess up by using the right approach

Resources from this Episode:

• Relationship Renovation Counseling Center
• The Relationship Renovation Podcast with EJ & Tara Kerwin

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Resources

Episode 36. How to Change Your "Stories" and Grow Connection [with Mark Warren]

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If you're feeling stuck in a blended family marriage that’s filled with constant conflict, emotional disconnection, or overwhelming stress, you're not alone—and you're not without hope.

Wes and Jennie were right where you are. Ten kids, a new marriage, and the chaos of the pandemic had pushed them into survival mode. Their arguments were frequent and intense. Their connection was fading fast. And they had no idea how to move forward.

But instead of giving up, they chose to reach out for help.

That’s when they found us—and together, we walked through a proven coaching process that provided them with tools to reconnect, resolve conflicts, and build a strong foundation in their marriage. In this episode, you’ll hear the breakthroughs they experienced and how they transformed not only their relationship but their entire family dynamic.

You'll also hear the amazing update four years later—including BIG wins in building genuine connections with their kids, becoming grandparents, and a special first-time experience as a family.

Listen in and be encouraged! You can experience transformation too - all it takes is one brave step forward.

You'll Discover:

• How Wes and Jennie moved from explosive arguments to calm, clear communication
• Why investing in your marriage is essential for blended family success
• The surprising power of understanding your personal past in order to show up better in the present
• The long-term results of imperfect progress, even in the toughest seasons

Resources from this Episode:

• CLICK HERE to continue learning, growing, and investing in the health of your relationship

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Resources

Episode 215. Does Your Relationship Feel Hopeless? Why Giving Up Might Not Be the Answer

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Episode 155. How to Easily Enjoy Meaningful Conversations and More Connection with Your Spouse [with Jennifer Zumbiel]

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