We know that pushback moments can sting. Eye rolls, refusals, accusations, or shutting down are all things kids in blended families can tend to do. It’s easy for parents and stepparents to appease, minimize, deflect, control, try to 'fix-it' or simply avoid pushback (we’ve done it too).

In this two-part series, we act as your guides and name the real struggle beneath kids' hurtful behavior: loss, grief, and fear that come with blending. Then we introduce a clear plan: Emotion Coaching.

You’ll hear real-life scenarios, why common reactions backfire, and what to do instead to help your child feel seen and supported. The win? A calmer home, stronger bonds, and practical steps forward.

The risk of doing nothing? Escalating conflict, shutdown, resentment, and power struggles. If you’re ready to respond to your child's pushback with calm, clarity, and care, this conversation is for you.

You'll Discover:

• The four common Pushback Predicaments: competing for love, accusations/threats, oppositional attitude, and loss & grief. And what’s really going on underneath.
• Why appeasing, minimizing, deflecting, defending, controlling, or avoiding often makes things worse, and what kids hear when we react in those ways.
• How Emotion Coaching helps kids identify and name big feelings, regulate their emotions, and become receptive to changing their behavior. Plus, the blended-family benefits (safety, trust, and respect).
• A simple reflection challenge to build awareness around your typical reaction patterns and your child’s reactions to your reactions, so that you can choose a better way to respond next time.

Continued Learning on this Topic:

• Episode 154. What practical and emotional shifts can you expect as you blend your family?
• Episode 213. Discover How to Better Understand and Connect with Children of Divorce [with Lauren Reitsema]
• Episode 159. How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and Hurt
• Episode 37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent?
• Episode 039. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant Stepkids

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Blended family couples often carry unprocessed pain and can slip into patterns of “autopilot", which fuels disconnection and discouragement.

Chad and Jdele Brignac know this firsthand. After merging their families, they hoped for “Brady Bunch” magic. Instead, they spent 17 years in deep grief and survival mode as unexamined patterns collided.

In this episode, we draw out their hard-won wisdom, which they share in their book Blend Don’t Break. After two decades of marriage, a turning point came when Chad realized and owned past mistakes, moved away from reactivity, and created space for their now-adult kids to be heard and known.

Their story shows that it’s never too late. With humility, curiosity, and lived values, any couple can restart healing, rebuild safety, and reshape their family legacy. No matter where they are in their blended journey.

Chad and Jdele are speakers and authors. Chad equips men to lead with self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and compassion. Jdele guides families toward healing and lasting connection. Together, they help blended families thrive, not just survive.

You’ll Discover

• Why grief and survival mode can mask deeper issues and how owning your part can reopen connection even years later.
• What “learned behaviors” look like in real life and how to move from overreacting to responding.
• How to replace vague ideals with actionable family values that everyone understands and can live out.
• The value of flexibility and trust, and how to increase family connection.
• The “unpack before you pack” idea and how to practically focus on what to hold onto, clean up, or leave behind from your past.

Resources

• Blend Don't Break by Chad and Jdele Brignac
• CLICK HERE to connect with Chad
• CLICK HERE to connect with Jdele

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Have you ever experienced an awkward "stepfamily moment" in public? Like when someone notices that you and your child have different last names or makes assumptions about your family dynamics? We've experienced plenty of those moments in our blended family journey, and it doesn't feel very good.

In today’s conversation, we address the experience of feeling “marginalized” or "less than". And we'll share what we've done to stand in our true identity and invite others into genuine connection, rather than avoiding the awkwardness.

It's liberating to simply normalize the reality that blended families are everywhere, and we embrace three mindset shifts that make a real difference:

• Be confident and secure about how your family came together
• Be authentic by offering a simple, positive message that honors your story
• Avoid comparison traps

Our hope is that you’ll feel seen, supported, and empowered to carry your story with courage and to know that you aren't alone.

You’ll Discover

• What feeling “marginalized” looks like in everyday moments, and why blended families are part of the cultural mainstream
• A simple, unapologetic way to respond to awkward situations without shaming yourself or your kids
• Four tools to escape comparison traps and stay confident and secure

Resources from this Episode:

• CLICK HERE to check out the Blending Together Community
• Episode 11. 3 Hidden Strengths for Imperfect Blended Families
• Episode 156. The 3 Super Strengths of a Blended Family Marriage
• Episode 114. Beware of Common Comparison Traps that Create Disconnection and Negativity
• Episode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them Out
• Episode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your "Perfectionistic" Ideals and Disappointments
• Episode 180. Break Free From Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and Security

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Over our 24 years of blending, we’ve discovered that every couple needs a clear strategy to get unstuck and move toward the family future they really want. In this conversation, we share a proven approach to aligning around your family's goals, creating a values-based parenting approach, and avoiding the common pitfalls that lead to chaos, resentment, and division.

We know how confusing and lonely blended family life can feel at times—it's complicated! Even with millions of stepfamilies across the country, it can still feel like you’re on an island trying to figure it all out alone.

That’s why in today’s episode—released on National Stepfamily Day—we’re tackling this question: How can you reduce blended family chaos and instead build a united front as a couple while connecting with a supportive community that truly understands?

Additionally, in honor of National Stepfamily Day, we're introducing a special opportunity to join our Blending Together Community free for 30 days, where you’ll benefit from genuine connections, encouragement, and proven strategies that work.

You'll Discover:

• How Parenting ‘by default’ often leads to places you never intended to go. But when you choose to parent with intention, you can guide your family toward the future you truly want.
• The importance of prioritizing a few key family values to create unity, reduce conflict, and avoid getting overwhelmed.
• Practical ways to communicate your values to the kids without lecturing or undermining the stepparent.
• How a values-based approach simplifies discipline and builds long-term character, not just short-term compliance.
• The life-changing difference that comes from being part of a supportive community that understands the unique challenges of blending a family.

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 218. How to Positively Influence Your Kids' Character When Your Ex Undermines Your Values
• CLICK HERE to learn more about our Blending Together Community
• Questions? Email us at: kim@blendedfamilybreakthrough.com

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If you’ve ever felt like the values you’re trying to instill in your kids get undone the moment they step into the other home, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—and we know how discouraging it can feel.

In this episode, we share a powerful tool we first learned from Ron Deal called the Inoculation Strategy. It’s a simple, practical way to prepare your kids to recognize and resist negative influences—without badmouthing or creating loyalty binds.

We’ll walk you through real-life examples from our own blended family journey, explain how to stay in the “neutral zone” while teaching important lessons, and encourage you to keep planting seeds of character even when it seems like they aren’t taking root.

Over time, your kids will internalize what you've instilled—and those intentional lessons will matter more than you think.

You'll Discover:

• The “wild card factor” that often fuels conflict between households
• Two key realities you must accept before using the Inoculation Strategy
• Practical ways to engage your kids by using movies, books, current events, and personal stories as teaching moments that count
• How to avoid loyalty binds and protect your child’s wellbeing while guiding them toward positive values, character traits, and life skills

Resources from this Episode:

• The Smart Stepfamily by Ron Deal
• Episode 207. Four Myths About Parenting When Your Ex Has Different Rules

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