In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Dr. Sara Reardon, board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist, founder of The Vagina Whisperer, and author of Floored, to talk about the muscles 68% of postmenopausal women say no one ever taught them they had. Nearly 1 in 3 women lives with a pelvic floor disorder — urinary leakage, prolapse, pain with sex — and the US spends over $20 billion a year managing it rather than fixing it, while women are offered a device, surgery, or “just live with it.” Dr. Reardon explains why leaking isn’t just part of being a woman, why diapers aren’t your destiny, and why these symptoms are treatable at every age.

Dr. Reardon walks through what happens at a pelvic floor PT appointment (you can self-refer in every US state, covered by insurance), why over 50% of women do Kegels incorrectly — and why Kegels alone were never the answer — the difference between a weak and a too-tight pelvic floor, and stress vs. urge incontinence. They dig into night-time bathroom trips and the fall-and-fracture risk nobody connects to them, why vaginal estrogen should be prescribed proactively — including the study showing it cut recurrent UTIs from 5.9 infections per patient-year to 0.5 — the truth about prolapse (half of women over 50 have some degree of it), what to ask before consenting to any prolapse repair, and the vaginal mesh scandal. Framed throughout by Mary Claire’s own mother’s story: three failed incontinence surgeries, decades of leaking, and the hip fracture after which she never walked again.

Guest links:
Dr. Sara Reardon / The Vagina Whisperer (Website) https://www.thevagwhisperer.com/
Dr. Sara Reardon (Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/the.vagina.whisperer/

Books:
“Floored: A Woman’s Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage,” by Dr. Sara Reardon https://www.thevagwhisperer.com/floored
“The New Perimenopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://thepauselife.com/pages/the-new-perimenopause-book
“The New Menopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CKBZ4K1Z

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