Let's be real, missing someone who wasn't good for you can feel like the dumbest thing in the world... until it's you.

You know what they did. You know the relationship was toxic. You know you deserve better. And yet, your chest still aches when that song comes on, and your brain keeps replaying those good moments like some kind of emotional torture device.

If you're sitting there feeling called out right now, this conversation is for you. We're diving into why your heart sometimes misses what your mind knows was wrong for you and why that's actually more normal than you think.

In this episode, you'll discover:

1. Why we miss the feeling, not the person (and how to tell the difference)

2. How your brain edits relationships like a highlight reel with no bloopers

3. The mindset shifts that stop you from romanticizing toxic love

4. Why missing someone doesn't mean you should go back to them

5. Practical tools to honor the feeling without reopening closed doors

6. How to reclaim the parts of yourself you're actually missing

This episode is for you if:

• You feel embarrassed about missing someone who hurt you

• You're wondering if missing them means you're not healed

• You catch yourself scrolling through old photos and remembering only the good times

• You're tired of your heart and your mind being at war with each other

• You need permission to feel the missing without acting on it

Your capacity to miss someone who hurt you doesn't make you weak, it makes you human. It shows you love with your whole heart, and that's actually beautiful.

Missing them doesn't mean you want them back. It means you're grieving what you hoped they could be.

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Ever found yourself pushing away someone who was actually good for you? This episode is going to hit different.

In this raw and honest conversation, I’m exploring the quiet ways we destroy the very thing we say we want most: healthy, consistent love. We’re diving into why your nervous system sometimes treats safety like a threat and why you might find yourself picking fights with the kindest person you’ve ever dated.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why healthy love can feel “boring” or “too much” when you’re used to chaos

• The subtle ways we create distance when someone gets too close (and why we do it)

• How your past relationships taught your nervous system to fear what you’re praying for

• The difference between trauma responses and genuine red flags

• Why you might feel suffocated by consistency and suspicious of availability

• Practical tools to recognize sabotage patterns before they destroy good relationships

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve ever ruined something good because it felt “too easy”

• You find yourself creating problems where there aren’t any

• You feel anxious when relationships are calm and peaceful

• You’re tired of repeating the same destructive patterns

• You want to learn how to receive love without pushing it away

Your past taught you to survive love, now it’s time to learn how to thrive in it. The love you’ve been praying for might feel foreign at first, and that’s exactly why your nervous system tries to reject it.

Stop letting your trauma responses write your love story. This episode will show you how.

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#BeyondYou #Boundaries #SelfLove #ChoosingYou #HealthyRelationships #WomenOfColor #SelfCare #PersonalLimits #SayingNo

Have you been called “difficult” for having standards? Labeled “selfish” for protecting your peace? Made to feel crazy because people acted like your boundaries were personal attacks?

This episode is your reality check.

In this powerful conversation, I’m breaking down why setting boundaries doesn’t make you mean or difficult, it makes you awake. We’re exploring how the world taught you that having limits was wrong, and why reclaiming your right to boundaries is actually the most loving thing you can do.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. Why you’ve been apologizing for your own limits your entire life

2. How cultural programming taught women (especially women of color) that boundaries are “selfish”

3. The difference between boundaries and walls and why people confuse the two

4. What happens when you start setting limits (spoiler: the guilt trips and gaslighting begin)

5. How boundaries actually improve your relationships by filtering out users and takers

6. Practical scripts for setting clear, non-negotiable boundaries

7. Why the people who resist your boundaries are telling you exactly who they are
   

This episode is for you if:

• You feel guilty every time you say no to someone

• You’ve been told you’re “too much” for having standards

• You’re exhausted from being everyone’s go-to person

• You want to stop feeling crazy for protecting your energy

• You’re ready to choose yourself without apologizing for it

Your boundaries are not up for negotiation. Your well-being is not a group decision. Your peace is not a luxury you have to earn, it’s a necessity you have the right to protect.

The people who truly love you will respect your boundaries. The ones who don’t? They’re showing you they love what you do for them more than who you are.

If you’re ready to stop apologizing for choosing yourself, this episode will show you how.

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Hey beautiful souls,

This week, I'm sitting with something that's been heavy on my heart, and I have a feeling some of you might be sitting with it too.

It's about connection. The messy, scary, absolutely necessary work of letting people in as adults who have done some healing but are still, you know, human.

You know that feeling when you meet someone new and there's this moment where you have to decide: "Am I going to let them in?" Your heart says yes, but your mind starts running through all the ways this could go sideways. Because baby, we've been here before.

In this episode, we're diving deep into:

✨ Why everything is a risk - and how to honor that instead of avoiding it

✨ How to be intentional with connection without being guarded

✨ Reframing uncertainty as creative space, not something to fear

✨ Learning to trust yourself when you can't see the whole picture

✨ My recent coffee shop revelation that changed how I think about vulnerability

I share a personal story about a moment when I felt that familiar flutter of caring about someone new, and how my brain immediately went into protection mode. Plus, we talk about Kennedy Ryan's new book "Can't Get Enough" and what it teaches us about showing up with all our parts.

This one's for you if you've been wondering whether it's worth it to open your heart again - whether to a friend, a romantic partner, or even just to new possibilities.

Your uncertainty isn't evidence that you're not ready. It's evidence that you're human, that you care, that you know connection matters.

The blank page is waiting, and your story is still being written. And I have a feeling the next chapters are going to be beautiful.

🎧Tune in now!

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Have you been called "so calm" and "so together" your whole life, but inside you're screaming?

This episode is going to shake you to your core.

In this raw and honest conversation, I'm exploring the difference between performing calm and actually feeling calm and why the performance might be slowly killing you. We're unpacking how being praised for your composure when what you really needed was permission to fall apart has shaped every relationship you have.

In this episode, you'll discover:

1. Why emotional suppression masquerades as emotional maturity (and how to tell the difference)

2. The cultural weight of being the "strong one" and how it's passed down through generations

3. How performing calm attracts people who can't handle your humanity

4. The physical, mental, and spiritual cost of suppressing your emotions

5. Why your panic attacks, headaches, and exhaustion might be your body demanding to feel what you won't let yourself express

6. How to start feeling instead of performing without becoming an emotional mess

This episode is for you if:

• You're the one everyone comes to when they need someone to stay composed

• You've been called "low-maintenance" but you're actually just self-abandoning

• You feel lonely in your relationships because no one knows the real you

• You're exhausted from being everyone else's emotional stabilizer

• You want to learn the difference between regulation and suppression

You were not born to be everyone else's emotional stabilizer. Your feelings are not too much. Your needs are not inconvenient. Your emotional reality is not something you need to perform away.

The world needs your authentic presence, not your perfect performance. It's time to stop earning love through composure and start receiving it through honesty.

If you're ready to trade performance for presence, this episode will show you how.

🎧Tune in now!

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Are you living your life or just surviving it really well? In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by keynote speaker, momentum coach, and former U.S. Marine, Marlon Wesh, to explore the difference between existing and actually living.

Marlon doesn’t just teach transformation, he’s lived it. From navigating trauma and abuse to breaking free from codependency and people-pleasing, his journey to reclaiming his power is both raw and inspiring.

Today, he’s sharing his framework of The 5 Epiphanies that guide people from survival mode to self-permission.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why most people are just “surviving really well” instead of truly living

• The difference between performing who you think you should be vs. being who you actually are

• How trauma and codependency keep us trapped in patterns that don’t serve us

• The 5 powerful mindset shifts that create lasting transformation

• Why you don’t need anyone’s permission to be yourself (and how to stop waiting for it)

• Breaking generational cycles of people-pleasing and emotional suppression

• The penny story that will shift how you see signs from the universe

This conversation is for you if:

• You feel like you’re living someone else’s version of your life

• You’re tired of people-pleasing and want to reclaim your power

• You’re ready to stop performing and start being authentic

• You recognize patterns from your past that you’re ready to break

• You want to understand the difference between surviving and thriving

Marlon’s message is clear: You’re not broken, you’re just buried beneath years of trying to be who everyone else needed you to be. The most powerful decision you can make is to stop waiting for permission and start telling yourself the truth.

This episode will give you the courage to take the first step toward reclaiming your voice and building momentum toward the life you truly want.

Connect with Marlon Wesh:

📌 Keynote Speaking: https://marlonwesh.com

📩 Email: marlon@marlonwesh.com

️ Podcast: https://risingfromtheshadows.show/

🎥 YouTube: @risewithmarlon

📱 Instagram: @risewithmarlon

X Twitter: @risewithmarlon

📱 TikTok: @risewithmarlon

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/risingfromtheshadows

🔗 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlonwesh/

Be his guest: https://tellmystory.risingfromtheshadows.com

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#BeyondYou #SelfPermission #Transformation #Peoplepleasing #Authenticity #TraumaHealing #PersonalGrowth #BreakingCycles

Can't stop thinking about someone and wondering if it's destiny or dysfunction? This episode is your truth-telling moment.

In this raw and honest conversation, I'm breaking down the difference between a soul connection that elevates you and a trauma bond that has you feeling addicted to chaos. Because honey, sometimes what we're calling "divine timing" is just our nervous system being hooked on emotional intensity and your heart deserves to know the difference.

In this episode, you'll discover:

1. Why trauma bonds feel so much like "meant to be" connections (and how to tell them apart)

2. The real signs of a soul tie vs. the warning signs of trauma bonding

3. How your nervous system can get addicted to chaos and mistake it for love

4. Why you might be drawn to people who make you feel crazy instead of calm

5. Cultural and spiritual perspectives on soul connections without the toxic positivity

6. Practical ways to check in with yourself when you're caught up in intense feelings

This episode is for you if:

• You can't let go of someone but don't know if it's love or addiction

• You've called chaotic relationships "passionate" or "spiritual"

• Your friends are worried about a connection you think is destiny

• You feel crazy, anxious, or unlike yourself around someone you "can't live without"

• You keep making excuses for someone's behavior because the connection "feels different"

Real soul connections don't make you lose your peace, they help you find it. If someone has you questioning your sanity, that's not your soulmate, that's your nervous system trying to heal old wounds.

Ready to understand your patterns better? I have a special GPT that can help.

Share this with someone who needs to know the difference between chemistry and chaos.

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#BeyondYou #SoulTies #TraumaBond #HealthyLove #SpiritualConnection #Healing #RelationshipClarity #ToxicLove

Ever looked in the mirror during a relationship and not recognized the woman staring back at you? This episode is your reminder that you can be deeply in love and still be deeply yourself.

In this vulnerable conversation, I'm sharing why your independence isn't something to apologize for or tone down in relationships, it's actually one of your greatest strengths. We're unpacking the myth that love means losing yourself, and exploring how to build intimacy while maintaining your beautiful autonomy.

In this episode, you'll discover:

1. Why you don't have to choose between being loved and being yourself

2. The difference between softness and smallness (especially for women of color who are told to be "strong" everywhere else)

3. How to recognize when someone's love requires you to shrink vs. when it celebrates your wholeness

4. Scripts for setting boundaries around your time, energy, and individual needs

5. Why interdependence is healthier than codependence

6. Red flags vs. green flags when someone responds to your independence

This episode is for you if:

• You've ever lost yourself trying to be the "perfect" girlfriend

• You're afraid that having your own life makes you "too independent" for love

• You've been told you're "hard to love" because you have boundaries

• You want to maintain your friendships, goals, and interests while building intimacy

• You're tired of making yourself smaller to make others feel more secure

The right person won't be threatened by your independence, they'll be attracted to it. They'll see your full life and think, "This is someone who knows who she is."

🎧Tune in now!

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