You used to work, socialise and push through. Now ordinary demands can feel beyond your capacity. What happens when autistic burnout leaves you asking, “Why can't I do what I used to do?”

In Episode 18 of Between Us | Neurodivergent Conversations, Christine and Mareike share their different experiences of autistic burnout and the uncertainty of living with changed capacity. We explore the hidden cost of masking and compensation, why stopping activity may not feel restful when demands remain, and what a felt sense of safety means to us: moments when we feel less on guard or required to perform. We question whether recovery must mean returning to our old output, and consider reducing load, noticing earlier signals and making room for quiet joy without turning recovery into another performance project.

• Autistic burnout in late-discovered neurodivergent women
• Reduced capacity and the hidden cost of pushing through
• Rest, ongoing demands and a felt sense of safety
• Sensory load, masking and earlier signs of overload
• Grief and uncertainty about your future capacity
• Recovery beyond productivity, including joy and support

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Between Us | Neurodivergent Conversations is a podcast with Christine and Mareike for late-diagnosed, late-identified, self-identifying and questioning neurodivergent women. We share lived experience of ADHD, autism, AuDHD, masking, burnout, parenting, relationships and midlife, while learning to build lives that fit our nervous systems.

A note about this conversation: We share lived experience and general information, not medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. If this raises questions about your health, consider discussing them with an appropriately qualified professional.

Another planner. Another routine. And dinner is still unexpectedly difficult. How do you turn what you know about your ADHD, autism or AuDHD into practical support for the life you're actually living?

In Episode 17 of Between Us | Neurodivergent Conversations, Christine and Mareike explore the gap between understanding your brain and organising everyday life around it. We talk about visible reminders, fewer decisions, body doubling, flexible routines and planning for low-capacity days. The starting point is one thing that keeps going wrong, then getting curious about what makes it difficult. We share systems we've abandoned and adjustments we're still experimenting with, including making room for transitions and recovery instead of expecting ourselves to push through.

• Practical ADHD, autism and AuDHD strategies for daily life
• Visible storage, reminders and externalising memory
• Reducing decisions and making the first step easier
• Body doubling, interest and momentum for starting tasks
• Flexible routines and low-capacity versions of ordinary days
• Planning transitions, communication and recovery time

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Between Us | Neurodivergent Conversations is a podcast with Christine and Mareike for late-diagnosed, late-identified, self-identifying and questioning neurodivergent women. We share lived experience of ADHD, autism, AuDHD, masking, burnout, parenting, relationships and midlife, while learning to build lives that fit our nervous systems.

You understand your ADHD or autism, but you still tell yourself you should be able to cope. Why does needing rest, quiet or help feel like a personal failure, even after discovering you're neurodivergent?

In Episode 15 of Between Us | Neurodivergent Conversations, Christine and Mareike explore internalised ableism: the expectations we've absorbed about productivity, independence and what a capable adult should manage. We share how those rules show up differently for us, from pushing through exhaustion to feeling guilty about having needs. Understanding our neurodivergence hasn't automatically changed the standards we measure ourselves against. We're learning to notice when a genuine need is followed by judgement, and to get curious about whose rules we're following.

• Internalised ableism in late-discovered neurodivergent women
• Rest guilt, productivity and the pressure to push through
• Comparing today’s capacity with what you used to manage
• Why asking for help can feel like becoming a burden
• Noticing the “should” that arrives after a need
• Trying one small moment of believing your own needs

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Between Us | Neurodivergent Conversations is a podcast with Christine and Mareike for late-diagnosed, late-identified, self-identifying and questioning neurodivergent women. We share lived experience of ADHD, autism, AuDHD, masking, burnout, parenting, relationships and midlife, while learning to build lives that fit our nervous systems.