In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we explore a growing and important area of understanding within education and psychology autism in girls.

Drawing directly from our reflections in practice, we talk about why this conversation feels relatively recent, and why so many girls have historically gone unseen. Much of what professionals were trained to recognise was based on more stereotypical presentations. In this episode, we challenge ourselves to look again.

A central theme in our discussion is masking.

We reflect on how many girls develop strong language skills and learn social scripts that help them blend in at school. On the surface, things can look settled and successful. Yet when we triangulate with home, a very different picture can emerge exhaustion, anxiety, emotional overwhelm and behaviours that seem to “appear” only outside of the classroom.

We explore the idea of cognitive demand not just academically, but socially and emotionally. For many girls, navigating friendships, reading social nuance and maintaining control in uncertain situations carries a significant invisible load.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

• Why autism in girls is often missed in school settings
• The role of masking and social scripting
• Differences between school presentation and home presentation
• How imaginative play can appear typical while still being repetitive underneath
• The cumulative cognitive and emotional demand girls may be managing

We also move into practical support.

We talk about the importance of triangulation between school and home, noticing subtle patterns in play and interaction, and strengthening identity rather than focusing solely on social correction.

Practical approaches discussed include:

• Lego therapy to develop perspective-taking
• Social stories and comic strip conversations
• Emotional intelligence interventions such as The Transporters
• The homunculi (CBT-based avatar) approach
• Regular strengths-based reflections using “I noticed…” language

A key message we return to is simple:

Autistic practice is good practice.

When we prioritise communication, emotional literacy, predictability and identity, we improve outcomes not only for autistic girls, but for all children.

Why This Episode Matters

If we only look for loud or stereotypical presentations, we risk missing girls who are quietly coping until they can no longer sustain it.

This episode encourages us to look beneath the surface, to question assumptions and to recognise that behaviour is often a strategy for managing uncertainty and demand.

Understanding autism in girls requires curiosity, reflection and collaboration and this conversation is part of that ongoing shift.

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In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we respond to the newly published SEND White Paper and ask a question we don’t think is being asked clearly enough:

If supervision isn’t part of the reform, are we simply increasing pressure on schools without increasing support?

We explore the emphasis on inclusion, the proposed “expert at hand” approach, and the acknowledgement that many teachers do not feel confident supporting pupils with S.E.ND. Drawing on our combined experience and Gillian’s research into emotional wellbeing and teacher retention we reflect on what this reform could mean in practice.

In This Episode, We Discuss

• Whether supervision is the missing ingredient in meaningful SEND reform
• The emotional load teachers carry daily and how reform could intensify that pressure
• Why training alone rarely leads to sustained practice change
• What psychological safety actually looks like for teachers and TAs
• How relationships drive inclusion before behaviour systems or attainment measures
• The risk of inclusion bases becoming seclusion spaces without relational work
• The importance of empowerment, consultation and clarity of role across a school system

Why This Episode Matters

We all recognise that the S.E.N.D system is under strain. Reform is needed. But reform without clarity, containment, and relational safety risks repeating familiar patterns under new language.

I believe that if we want confident teachers, we must create spaces where they feel safe to reflect, question, and grow. Supporting children with S.E.N.D starts with supporting the adults around them.

This episode offers a grounded reflection hopeful where there is potential, cautious where experience tells us to pause and focused on what we can do now to strengthen schools from within.

Read the full S.E.N.D white paper here>> Supervision in Education Quality Standards Framework pdf

Connect with Gillian Airey Goodwin (Guest)

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In this special episode of Between Two Psychs, we respond to the recent SEND White Paper leak and unpack what it could mean for schools, families, and professionals.

With the clear understanding that this is speculative, we walk through the key themes emerging from the leak, including the proposed move toward a tiered system, the possibility of EHCPs being reserved for the most complex cases, and what reassessment at key transition points, particularly age 11, might signal for secondary schools.

Drawing on our combined experience across education, we reflect on whether this is meaningful reform or a familiar cycle of policy returning in a new form. We explore the potential impact on inclusion, funding, accountability, and multi agency working, and ask the bigger question: will this actually strengthen collaboration between education, health and social care?

In This Episode, We Explore

• The proposed shift from a binary EHCP system to a tiered approach
• What reassessment at Year 6 and transition to secondary could mean for funding and provision
• The increased focus and pressure on Key Stage 3 and secondary settings
• Funding moving closer to schools and whether that creates opportunity or risk
• The importance of outreach and upskilling mainstream staff
• Moving from an assessment heavy model to a consultation and empowerment approach
• Why early intervention only works if there are genuine boots on the ground

Why This Episode Matters

SEND reform affects real children, real families, and real professionals. While policy language can sound hopeful, meaningful change depends on structure, funding, and genuine collaboration.

This episode offers a balanced, grounded reflection. Hopeful where it makes sense to be hopeful, cautious where experience tells us to be cautious. Above all, it reinforces the need for proper support around schools, shared responsibility across systems, and an approach that empowers professionals rather than overwhelming them.

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Website: https://www.ridgewaypsychology.co.uk/

LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/michael-lane-4304a3123

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In this episode, we sit down with teaching SENCO Tom Hodgson to explore why relationships sit at the heart of successful inclusion and how emotionally attuned practice can completely change a child’s journey in school.

Drawing on real classroom experience, we reflect on the emotional demands of supporting children with complex needs and why connection must come before correction. Through a powerful case study, we unpack how one pupil moved from the brink of permanent exclusion to full integration through co-regulation, consistency and a strong team around the child.

Together, we discuss why meaningful relationships, emotional literacy and shared staff values are essential for long-term change in schools.

In This Episode, We Discuss

• Why relationships must come before behaviour strategies
• How co-regulation helps prevent escalation
• A real case study from exclusion risk to full inclusion
• The power of empathy, curiosity, and emotional attunement
• Building emotional literacy and helping children name feelings
• Why consistency across adults changes outcomes
• Supporting staff while working with complex pupils
• How everyday interactions become meaningful interventions

Why This Episode Matters

This conversation invites educators to rethink behaviour through the lens of connection and safety. When children feel understood and supported by consistent adults, meaningful progress becomes possible both emotionally and academically.

It also highlights the emotional load educators carry and why reflective practice, shared training and strong professional relationships are essential for sustainable, inclusive education.

Connect with Mike Lane

Website: https://www.ridgewaypsychology.co.uk
LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/michael-lane-4304a3123

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.AdamMcCartney

In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we explore the realities of early years provision and the incredible work practitioners do despite increasing demands and limited resources. Drawing on experiences from educational psychology and early settings, we reflect on the pressures staff face and the psychological foundations that help young children feel safe, connected and ready to learn.

A central theme is “reach before you teach” the idea that relationships, emotional safety, and connection sit at the heart of effective early years practice. We discuss how behaviour often communicates underlying needs such as anxiety, sensory differences or communication challenges, and why play remains essential for cognitive, social and emotional development.

Alongside these reflections, we share practical strategies that support engagement and independence, including paired reading, attention buckets, visual timetables and pictorial communication systems.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The challenges and strengths within the early years sector
• Why relationships and emotional safety underpin learning
• Understanding behaviour through function and developmental needs
• The importance of play in cognitive and social growth
• Practical strategies to support attention, communication and routine
• How predictability and co-regulation help children engage and learn

Why This Episode Matters

Early years practice lays the foundation for lifelong learning. This episode highlights that meaningful progress starts with connection, regulation and realistic expectations for both children and the adults supporting them. When children feel safe and understood, learning becomes possible and when practitioners feel supported, they are better able to meet the complex needs within modern early years settings.

Connect with Mike Lane

Website: https://www.ridgewaypsychology.co.uk/
LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/michael-lane-4304a3123

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In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we explore a question many educators quietly wrestle with: why do some children still struggle to engage, even when lessons are well planned, differentiated, and thoughtfully delivered?

Drawing on classroom observations, psychological research, and real conversations with teachers, we unpack what it really means to be ready to learn. We look beyond lesson plans and curriculum demands to the emotional, physiological and relational factors that shape how children show up in classrooms and how teachers are supported (or stretched) in holding all of this at once.

We reflect on the impact of stress, cognitive overload, post-pandemic baselines and rising expectations and why learning can’t be separated from nervous-system state, safety

and trust. At the heart of the conversation is a simple but powerful idea: learning sits on top of regulation, belonging and relationships.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why strong lesson planning isn’t always enough to secure engagement
• How stress shifts the brain from learning to survival
• The impact of post-pandemic stress on children’s readiness to learn
• Dopamine, overstimulation and the learning brain
• Bruce Perry’s work and why emotional state drives cognitive access
• Polyvagal theory and the nervous system’s constant search for safety

Why This Episode Matters

This episode invites us to rethink what “preparedness for learning” really means. It reminds us that learning is not just a cognitive task it is a relational, emotional and physiological process.

When children feel safe, regulated and understood, they are far more able to tolerate challenge, uncertainty and moments of struggle. And when teachers are supported psychologically as well as professionally they are better able to hold the complex demands of modern classrooms.

Preparedness for learning doesn’t start with the lesson.
It starts with relationships, regulation and realistic expectations for children and for the adults who teach them.

Connect with Mike Lane

Website: https://www.ridgewaypsychology.co.uk/
LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/michael-lane-4304a3123

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The transition into Key Stage 3 is often described as a fresh start but for many young people, it’s where things quietly begin to unravel.

In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we explore why the move from primary to secondary school can be such a vulnerable point, particularly for students who sit on the margins. We unpack the steady rise in exclusions between Years 7 and 9 and ask a deeper question: what does this transition feel like psychologically for children and what are schools unintentionally missing?

We talk about the shift from one secure relationship to many, from nurture to independence and from feeling known to feeling lost in a much bigger system. Along the way, we explore concepts like learned helplessness, acceptance, autonomy and happiness and why behaviour is often a signal of unmet needs rather than defiance.

This is a conversation about connection, belonging and helping young people develop a sense of direction inside a system that can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why exclusions rise so sharply during Key Stage 3
• The psychological impact of moving from one key adult to many
• How independence, when introduced too quickly, can increase distress
• Learned helplessness and its link to disengagement and EBSA
• Why “promoting happiness” may be more useful than “reducing exclusions”
• The role of acceptance, shared identity and belonging in student wellbeing
• Why some students thrive in transition while others struggle
• Starting transition work earlier, including the role of Year 5
• Evidence based supports like Friends for Life and Coping Cat
• Using thoughts feelings behaviour models to support reflection and goal-setting
• Community-focused goals versus purely academic targets
• How small-group and coaching conversations can prevent exclusion
• Why teacher reflection, supervision and support matter just as much as student intervention

Why This Episode Matters

Key Stage 3 is often the most overlooked phase in education but it’s where identity, belonging and disengagement begin to crystallise.

This episode invites educators, leaders, and psychologists to look beyond behaviour and systems and instead focus on acceptance, connection and purpose. When young people can see where they fit, feel supported rather than dropped, and are helped to develop their own internal goals, school becomes something they can stay connected to not something they need to escape from.

Because behaviour is rarely about refusal.
More often, it’s about not feeling seen, safe or accepted.

Connect with Mike Lane

Website: https://www.ridgewaypsychology.co.uk/
LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/michael-lane-4304a3123

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Website: https://www.dradammccartney.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.AdamMcCartney

In this episode, we sit down with Gillian Airey Goodwin to explore what burnout really looks like in education and why understanding our own psychology may be key to keeping educators in the profession.

Drawing on Gillian’s Master’s research in mental health and wellbeing, alongside more than 30 years of experience in education, we reflect on the emotional demands teachers face, the role of emotional intelligence, and why coping alone is no longer enough. We explore how resentment, pressure and constant accountability can slowly erode wellbeing even in highly skilled, experienced professionals.

Together, we discuss why structured reflection, psychological safety and meaningful supervision may be essential for educators to thrive, not just survive.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What burnout looks like beyond exhaustion
• The role of emotional intelligence in managing pressure
• Why emotionally intelligent teachers still leave the profession
• Internal vs external support models in schools
• Trust, judgment and fear of being seen as “not coping”
• Why relationships with pupils keep educators going

Why This Episode Matters

This episode invites us to rethink how we support educators. When teachers understand their own psychology, feel safe to reflect, and are genuinely listened to, wellbeing improves and so does the experience of children in the classroom.

Educator wellbeing isn’t a “nice to have”. It’s fundamental to ethical decision-making, positive relationships and sustainable education systems.

Connect with Gillian Airey Goodwin (Guest)

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gillian-airey-goodwin-b9b401239/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gillianaireygoodwin?igsh=ZGsxd3NzMXh3MHN1

Connect with Mike Lane

Website: https://www.ridgewaypsychology.co.uk/
LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/michael-lane-4304a3123

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