In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we explore a growing and important area of understanding within education and psychology autism in girls.

Drawing directly from our reflections in practice, we talk about why this conversation feels relatively recent, and why so many girls have historically gone unseen. Much of what professionals were trained to recognise was based on more stereotypical presentations. In this episode, we challenge ourselves to look again.

A central theme in our discussion is masking.

We reflect on how many girls develop strong language skills and learn social scripts that help them blend in at school. On the surface, things can look settled and successful. Yet when we triangulate with home, a very different picture can emerge exhaustion, anxiety, emotional overwhelm and behaviours that seem to “appear” only outside of the classroom.

We explore the idea of cognitive demand not just academically, but socially and emotionally. For many girls, navigating friendships, reading social nuance and maintaining control in uncertain situations carries a significant invisible load.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

• Why autism in girls is often missed in school settings
• The role of masking and social scripting
• Differences between school presentation and home presentation
• How imaginative play can appear typical while still being repetitive underneath
• The cumulative cognitive and emotional demand girls may be managing

We also move into practical support.

We talk about the importance of triangulation between school and home, noticing subtle patterns in play and interaction, and strengthening identity rather than focusing solely on social correction.

Practical approaches discussed include:

• Lego therapy to develop perspective-taking
• Social stories and comic strip conversations
• Emotional intelligence interventions such as The Transporters
• The homunculi (CBT-based avatar) approach
• Regular strengths-based reflections using “I noticed…” language

A key message we return to is simple:

Autistic practice is good practice.

When we prioritise communication, emotional literacy, predictability and identity, we improve outcomes not only for autistic girls, but for all children.

Why This Episode Matters

If we only look for loud or stereotypical presentations, we risk missing girls who are quietly coping until they can no longer sustain it.

This episode encourages us to look beneath the surface, to question assumptions and to recognise that behaviour is often a strategy for managing uncertainty and demand.

Understanding autism in girls requires curiosity, reflection and collaboration and this conversation is part of that ongoing shift.

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In this episode of Between Two Psychs, we respond to the newly published SEND White Paper and ask a question we don’t think is being asked clearly enough:

If supervision isn’t part of the reform, are we simply increasing pressure on schools without increasing support?

We explore the emphasis on inclusion, the proposed “expert at hand” approach, and the acknowledgement that many teachers do not feel confident supporting pupils with S.E.ND. Drawing on our combined experience and Gillian’s research into emotional wellbeing and teacher retention we reflect on what this reform could mean in practice.

In This Episode, We Discuss

• Whether supervision is the missing ingredient in meaningful SEND reform
• The emotional load teachers carry daily and how reform could intensify that pressure
• Why training alone rarely leads to sustained practice change
• What psychological safety actually looks like for teachers and TAs
• How relationships drive inclusion before behaviour systems or attainment measures
• The risk of inclusion bases becoming seclusion spaces without relational work
• The importance of empowerment, consultation and clarity of role across a school system

Why This Episode Matters

We all recognise that the S.E.N.D system is under strain. Reform is needed. But reform without clarity, containment, and relational safety risks repeating familiar patterns under new language.

I believe that if we want confident teachers, we must create spaces where they feel safe to reflect, question, and grow. Supporting children with S.E.N.D starts with supporting the adults around them.

This episode offers a grounded reflection hopeful where there is potential, cautious where experience tells us to pause and focused on what we can do now to strengthen schools from within.

Read the full S.E.N.D white paper here>> Supervision in Education Quality Standards Framework pdf

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In this special episode of Between Two Psychs, we respond to the recent SEND White Paper leak and unpack what it could mean for schools, families, and professionals.

With the clear understanding that this is speculative, we walk through the key themes emerging from the leak, including the proposed move toward a tiered system, the possibility of EHCPs being reserved for the most complex cases, and what reassessment at key transition points, particularly age 11, might signal for secondary schools.

Drawing on our combined experience across education, we reflect on whether this is meaningful reform or a familiar cycle of policy returning in a new form. We explore the potential impact on inclusion, funding, accountability, and multi agency working, and ask the bigger question: will this actually strengthen collaboration between education, health and social care?

In This Episode, We Explore

• The proposed shift from a binary EHCP system to a tiered approach
• What reassessment at Year 6 and transition to secondary could mean for funding and provision
• The increased focus and pressure on Key Stage 3 and secondary settings
• Funding moving closer to schools and whether that creates opportunity or risk
• The importance of outreach and upskilling mainstream staff
• Moving from an assessment heavy model to a consultation and empowerment approach
• Why early intervention only works if there are genuine boots on the ground

Why This Episode Matters

SEND reform affects real children, real families, and real professionals. While policy language can sound hopeful, meaningful change depends on structure, funding, and genuine collaboration.

This episode offers a balanced, grounded reflection. Hopeful where it makes sense to be hopeful, cautious where experience tells us to be cautious. Above all, it reinforces the need for proper support around schools, shared responsibility across systems, and an approach that empowers professionals rather than overwhelming them.

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