What if the very drive that helped you succeed is the same force quietly pushing you toward exhaustion?

In this conversation with Dr. Selina Neri, I explore a tension so many high performers live with but rarely name. The desire to hold high standards, to lead well, to deliver excellence, and at the same time feel deeply depleted. Selina brings both research and lived experience to this topic, helping us understand that burnout is not a sign of weakness. It is often the byproduct of sustained overextension without intentional recovery.

We talk about what recovery really means. It is not about checking out or lowering expectations. It is about creating rhythms that allow your nervous system, your mind, and your identity to recalibrate. Selina shares why rest must be designed with the same intentionality as performance, and how leaders can model this in ways that strengthen culture rather than diminish it.

One of the most powerful parts of our discussion centers on identity. When achievement becomes intertwined with worth, stepping back can feel threatening. Selina gently challenges that narrative. She offers a path where ambition and sustainability coexist, where self-respect fuels excellence instead of self-pressure draining it.

If you care about leading at a high level without sacrificing your health, your relationships, or your sense of self, this episode will resonate. I hope it invites you to reconsider what strength looks like and how recovery might actually be your greatest advantage.

What if the very thing you are trying hardest to avoid is the doorway to becoming unshakable?

In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sit down with Amy C. Edmondson, Harvard Business School professor and the thinker behind psychological safety, to reframe how we see failure. Amy has spent decades studying leadership, teamwork, and learning organizations, and in this conversation, she brings her newest body of work into sharp focus. Together, we unpack the three distinct types of failure and why only one of them truly moves us forward.

Amy challenges the simplistic messages we often hear, either that failure is unacceptable or that we should fail fast and fail often. Instead, she offers a more grounded framework. There are basic failures that can and should be prevented. There are complex failures that emerge from systems and unpredictability. And then there are intelligent failures, the thoughtful experiments in new territory that help us grow, innovate, and build resilience. If we are not experiencing some intelligent failures, we are likely playing it too safe.

We also talk about what becoming unshakable really means in today's world. Amy describes it as being anchored in values while everything around us shifts. With technological change, geopolitical instability, and workplace uncertainty, resilience is no longer optional. It is a daily practice. And that practice begins with self-awareness.

One of the most practical takeaways from our conversation is Amy's "stop, challenge, choose" framework. When anxiety spikes or the inner critic gets loud, pause. Challenge the story you are telling yourself. Then choose a response that aligns with your values and long-term goals. It sounds simple, but it is powerful. It is how we move from spiraling into the pit of despair to taking the next small step forward.

Amy also shares vulnerable moments from her own journey, including the early years of her PhD when she felt certain she would not make it. What carried her through was not perfection, but perspective. A willingness to question her own catastrophic thinking. The courage to ask for help. The discipline to focus on what she could control in that moment.

For those of you who feel like you are barely hanging on, this conversation is for you. We talk about the importance of protecting time on your calendar as a real commitment, even when that commitment is to yourself. We explore how unlearning the automatic "yes" can be an act of integrity. And we return again and again to one grounding truth: you only ever have to take the next step.

Failure is inevitable. But how we interpret it determines whether it shakes us or strengthens us.

As you listen, consider this: where might you need to reclassify a failure in your own life? And what would change if you saw it as an intelligent experiment instead of a verdict on who you are?

What does it really mean to become unshakable when your career, your family life, and the world around you all feel uncertain at the same time?

In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I sat down with Christine Ann Miller for a conversation that stayed with me long after we stopped recording. From the very first question, Christine grounds resilience in something more profound than grit or endurance. She shares how becoming unshakable is tied to purpose, faith, and the courage to stay anchored to who you are, even when the path forward is unclear.

Christine takes us through her journey as a Jamaican American leader, the first in her family born in the United States, and how growing up around healthcare shaped her desire to solve meaningful problems.

From discovering chemical engineering through an encyclopedia to interning at Merck and dedicating more than three decades to developing medicines that save and improve lives, her story is rooted in service, curiosity, and conviction. She reflects on why purpose matters more than titles and why alignment, not momentum, is what sustains a long career.

The heart of this episode centers on a defining crossroads. Christine shares what it was like to leave a senior role with no next job lined up, only to have the world shut down weeks later during the pandemic. We talk openly about fear, faith, rest, and the discipline of self-leadership when everything familiar disappears. She explains how grounding practices like prayer, meditation, journaling, community, and intentional rest helped her stay receptive to what came next, rather than rushing to force an answer.

We also explore the role of support systems, from coaches and therapists to family and trusted friends, and why resilience is rarely built alone. Christine offers thoughtful guidance for anyone who feels like they are barely holding it together right now, reminding us that breathing, connection, service, and reflection are not small acts when life feels heavy.

As you listen, consider where you might be rushing past the very pause that could help you hear what is next for you. When things feel shaky in your own life or leadership, what enables you to stay grounded long enough to recognize the opportunity that may already be on its way?