Today’s topic is near and dear to our hearts: mind games. Nobody escapes them. The “3 Ways To Win Him Back” articles and advice are manipulation, a band-aid solution at best.

What’s important to figure out is the deeper root cause. What is getting in the way? What is causing you to sabotage and continue the same patterns?

Manipulation is often the quickest way to get what you want, like robbing a bank, but in the long term it won’t last. It becomes a game of who can defeat the other first, and that’s not the way to make a true connection. That’s a toxic spiral that feeds on itself. Keeping a “body count” is a power play to cover for a lack of self esteem.

How do you get out of this cycle? There’s no one thing that works for everybody, but what worked for Lawrence was regaining some self respect and pursuing happiness rather than status. For Connie, it was a realization that she was masking a lot of pain.

You can start to break the cycle by asking yourself some questions:

1. Am I happy? 
2. Why am I doing this?
3. Can I forgive myself for my mistakes in the past?

It takes a lot of strength to be vulnerable, but being completely authentic is the key to attracting relationships that make you happy.

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