This week we were in trouble.

We tackled some of the dilemmas you have sent to us.

Should a Christian give generously to relatives they know do not like them?

Should you stay in a relationship that is not meeting your financial needs?

Hear our thoughts on these issues and help us give advice to these listeners below and on our socials.

In this episode, we explore why there is a rising number of men not showing up on the day of lobola/roora celebrations.

Is it cold feet?

Is it the discovery of new information?

Is it purely disrespect?

What is the real issue and what must happen after?

We explore different scenarios where this could arise and give our 2 cents on how to end a relationship amicably.

We also give you our take on a juicy Dilemma submitted by one of you.

Tell us what you think in the comments and keep the conversation going on our social media.

It seems that more and more people over 25 are—whether by choice or circumstance—still living at home with their parents or guardians. Is it a financial life-hack to stay rent-free in a tough economy, or is it a slow descent into madness, complete with curfews, clashing routines, and unsolicited life advice?

In this episode, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and economic realities of adulting under your parents' roof. We talk about the trade-offs—saving money vs. losing independence—and ask whether living at home is a setback or simply the smart move right now. We also hear from guests who've lived it, left it, or are still navigating the sometimes comforting, sometimes claustrophobic experience of being a grown-up in your childhood bedroom.

If you've ever had to explain to someone why you still live at home—or questioned it yourself—this one's for you.

PLUS: Get ready for our brand-new segment — Your Story, Your Voice — where we feature anonymous voice notes from YOU, our listeners. 🎧 Send them to our Whatsapp number +263 77 810 3171

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Cheating: a scandal, a heartbreak… or just part of the game now?

In this explosive episode, we dive deep into why people cheat, how society responds — and why women always seem to get the shorter end of the judgment stick. From the Coldplay scandal that had the internet in flames to our own confessions, stories, and spicy opinions, no angle is off-limits.

We ask the real questions:

• Is emotional cheating worse than physical?
• Is cheating the new normal or still taboo?
• And… what even counts as cheating in the age of DMs and "soft" betrayal?

PLUS: Hear real-life experiences from our hosts, and get ready for our brand-new segment — Your Story, Your Voice — where we feature anonymous voice notes from YOU, our listeners. 🎧 Send them to our Whatsapp number +263 77 810 3171

Whether you've been cheated on, forgiven, left, or stayed — this episode is for you.

🎧 Tune in now. It's messy, it's honest, and it's got receipts.

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Join us for this heartfelt episode all about… friendship!

This week, we dive into a dilemma from one of our listeners who's feeling the very real strain of navigating adult friendships. What starts as one person's question quickly turns into a group therapy session, as we realize just how universal this struggle is.

Why does it feel harder to be vulnerable with our friends as we grow older? Why do we hesitate to reach out when we need support the most? In unpacking these questions, we get honest about emotional walls, shifting dynamics, and the quiet grief of fading connections.

Can you relate? We'd love to hear your story. Tune in, reflect with us, and maybe send this to that one friend you've been meaning to check in on. 💬💛

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Are you sending peeled banana emojis to your workmate? Stop it. Seriously.

In this episode, we dive headfirst into the tricky, controversial terrain of workplace romance, flirty texts, and the very real line between mutual attraction and sexual harassment. Sparked by one of your real-life dilemmas, we tackle it all—raw, honest, and unfiltered.

From our personal experiences to headline-making scandals, nothing is off-limits. Is workplace romance always wrong, or are there grey areas? We unpack everything from Judge President Mbenenge's case in South Africa to our own Mai Jeremiah in Zimbabwe. Are women overreacting—or is there something darker at play in professional spaces? As always, we spiral into some heavy existential debates and, yes, we preach the gospel of good old-fashioned ABSTINENCE. This one's not for the faint-hearted. Tune in, don't hold back, and let us know where you stand.

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In this Listener's Choice episode, we dive into a question that lit up our inbox: "What does it mean to be a submissive woman?"

Anesu, Kuda, and Chido unpack the layers — personal, religious, cultural, and sometimes uncomfortable — around the idea of submission in modern relationships. From faith and feminism to family dynamics, they explore what submission looks like (or doesn't) in their lives.

VI the Law joins the conversation, sharing a male perspective on submission and what it means to "lead" in a relationship — without tipping into control.

It's honest, it's layered, it's a little spicy. You asked, we answered.

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Is the "male loneliness pandemic" real? Can therapy be replaced by deep friendships? And how do words shape our relationships?

In Part 2 of this raw conversation, the men dive deeper into men's mental health—questioning stigmas, exploring self-love, and sharing real talk on finding peace in a noisy world. Whether you're new here or a longtime listener, this one's for every man (and person) who's ever wondered: "Am I really okay?"

Key Topics:

1. Therapy vs. leaning on friends—what's the move?
2. The power of words in relationships (and how they heal or hurt).
3. Debating the "male loneliness epidemic"—myth or reality?
4. Finding pockets of peace within the chaos.
5. Self love and self care-what does that mean to you?
6. Resetting-getting out of your regular routine and frienship circles and trying new things.

Real talk from real guys who've been there. No BS, no perfect answers - just honest conversation about navigating life as a man in 2025.

If you missed Part 1, catch up now—then join the conversation. Drop a comment below if this resonates.

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