In this episode, Ji Kim and Mel Hightower explore the complexities of being the 'fixer' in family dynamics. They discuss personal experiences, the emotional toll of this role, and the importance of setting boundaries. Through candid conversations, they reflect on their journeys and offer insights on how to navigate the challenges of being a fixer while prioritizing self-care and healthy relationships.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• How to recognize the signs that you might be the “fixer” in your family.
• The emotional and financial toll of constantly stepping in to solve others’ problems.
• Why fixers often suffer in silence—and how that affects relationships.
• The role of cultural and family dynamics in shaping fixer behavior.
• How unspoken expectations can create long-term pressure and resentment.
• The power of honest conversations in reshaping family roles.
• Practical ways to set and reinforce healthy boundaries without guilt.
• How shifting your role can strengthen your family relationships.

What We Discuss:

00:00 What it means to be the “family fixer” and how to spot the signs.

06:55 Mel’s story — stepping into the role after her father’s passing and its impact.

18:50 Ji’s story — how fixing shaped her career, relationships, and choices.

27:09 The turning points, boundary setting, and redefining support.

38:57 What healing looks like when you step back from fixing.

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