Episode Summary

In this episode of Selves Unedited, Dr. Danielle Colborne and Dr. Maria Christina Stewart explore a powerful and deeply relatable question: Are you shrinking or expanding?

They unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we hold ourselves back—from avoiding visibility and staying silent, to hiding behind clothing or self-doubt. This conversation goes beyond body image to touch on authenticity, fear, growth, and what it really means to take up space in your life.

Whether you’ve found yourself dimming your voice, avoiding opportunities, or feeling caught between wanting to be seen and wanting to disappear, this episode offers compassionate insight and practical ways to move toward expansion—at your own pace.

✨ In This Episode, We Cover:

• What it means to “shrink” vs. “expand” in everyday life
• The many ways hiding shows up (speech, behavior, body, and choices)
• Fear of visibility and the vulnerability of being seen
• Why even positive growth and success can feel scary
• The role of self-compassion, grace, and emotional awareness
• How to identify and challenge feared outcomes
• Building distress tolerance when things don’t go as planned
• The importance of values and your personal “why”
• Taking small, meaningful steps toward showing up more fully
• Navigating body image, clothing choices, and safety considerations

🔍 Key Takeaways

• Hiding is common and human—it can show up in many areas of life, not just body image.
• Fear doesn’t mean stop—it’s something to understand, validate, and work with.
• Thoughts aren’t facts—others’ opinions don’t define your truth.
• Worst-case scenarios are survivable—you are more capable than your fear suggests.
• Expansion is a practice—small, intentional steps create meaningful change over time.
• You get to define what “taking up space” looks like for you, in a way that feels safe and authentic.

🌱 Reflection Questions

• Where in your life might you be shrinking right now?
• What fears come up when you think about being more visible?
• What is one small step you could take toward expanding this week?
• What values or “why” might support you in showing up more fully?

💬 Notable Moments

• The idea that growth—even positive change—can trigger fear and self-doubt
• A personal example of “shrinking” through avoidance and how awareness shifted action
• Imagining worst-case scenarios as a way to build resilience and confidence
• The reminder that even the most celebrated creators face criticism

⚠️ Disclaimer

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. If you’re struggling, please consider reaching out to a qualified mental health professional.

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🌿 Closing Thought

As you move through your week, gently notice:

Where are you shrinking—and where might you be ready, even just a little, to expand?