In relationships with our kids, helping can start to look a lot like stepping in too fast.Your child is upset, excluded, overwhelmed, or has failed at something—and every instinct in you says: fix it.

You email the teacher.

You smooth over the disappointment.

You solve the conflict before they have to sit in it.

In this episode:

• Why some kids may be getting fewer chances to build distress tolerance

• How over-involvement can unintentionally weaken confidence

• When structure supports a child—and when it starts serving the parent’s need for control

• Why achievement pressure can start shaping a child’s sense of worth

• How to tell whether your child needs help or you need relief from watching them struggle

I’m joined by Dr. Shefali Tsabary for a conversation about parenting anxiety, over-involvement, resilience, independence, and what happens when protection gets dialed up too high.

Sometimes the hardest part of parenting is not knowing what to do.

It is knowing when not to do it for them.

Listen to Are You Parenting Your Child — Or Managing Your Anxiety? and follow We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling for more conversations about relationships, parenting, anxiety, resilience, and emotional development.

REFERENCES/RESOURCES

⁠Monmouth Plastic Surgery⁠

⁠⁠www.alternativescounseling.com⁠

https://www.drshefali.com/raisingconscious-daughters-sons/

CREDITS

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