Read the full episode breakdown + show notes:https://www.theselftrustcoach.com/blog/ep196-ambition-as-protection

What if the thing driving your success is also the thing keeping you from experiencing it?

Anu Verma is a trauma recovery specialist and founder of Victim 2 Victor who spent years mistaking her own overachievement for ambition, when it was really a survival pattern in disguise.

This episode isn't about trauma itself. It'sabout what happens when old protective strategies quietly follow us into leadership, business, and success, and how convincingly they can pass as drive.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• The Protective Ego: why the ego forms as a genuine response to being hurt, and isn't the enemy it's made out to be
• Strength Redirected: how the same strength that helps someone survive trauma can turn into 70 to 80 hour weeks and a success that doesn't match what'shappening inside
• Impact Without Definition: the difference between being impacted by something and being defined by it
• Alignment Over Achievement: the self-reflective questions Anu now asks before saying yes to any opportunity
• Forgiveness as Release: why forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, not a favor you extend to someone else
  

Episode Chapters:
00:00 Welcome and today's theme
01:00 Who Anu helps and the origin of Victim 2 Victor
03:00 The ego as protection, not a flaw
09:00 Self-trust, toxic relationships, and outsourced decisions
17:00 The ceiling that wasn't revenue: chasing external validation
20:00 Noticing action as a response to uncertainty
26:00 The self-reflective questions that check for alignment
32:00 Forgiveness and how leaders begin operating differently

Connect with Anu Verma:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victim2victor_anuverma/
Website: https://victim2victor.uk/
Additional resource: Author of Victim 2 Victor, and host the Victim2Victor Podcast

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