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  • COMPETENT & CONFIDENT

    COMPETENT & CONFIDENT
    2025/08/17
    Why your Workplace May be Trying to Silence You (Part 2)

    Are you a strong, capable leader who's faced pushback and undermining in the workplace? Do you feel like your competence is seen as a threat rather than an asset?

    In Part 2 of this empowering conversation with Executive Coach Alicia Pieterse, we expose the hidden dynamics that can sabotage your confidence and competence. Discover how to navigate cultural nuances, address conflict with grace, and reclaim your power in any professional setting.

    Alicia and Mpeo dive into:
    • The "Strong Black Woman" Paradox: Unpack the frustrating reality that competent, confident Black women often face in the workplace, where their strengths are both sought after and rejected.
    • Navigating Cultural Minefields: Learn how cultural practices (like familial terms of address) can create unhealthy power dynamics
    • Decoding Power Trips: Recognise the signs of stonewalling, gaslighting, and undermining from those in positions of authority
    • Owning Your Worth: Discover how to establish yourself as an adult, rather than approaching leadership with fear
    • Breaking the "Yes Men" Cycle: Understand how a lack of honest feedback and political savviness can lead to organisational dysfunction.
    • Setting Boundaries with Cultural Respect: Find the balance between honouring cultural norms and maintaining professional boundaries
    • Conflict Resolution as a Superpower: Discover why conflict management is a crucial skill for thriving in any workplace
    • The Art of Active Listening: Master the underrated skill of truly listening to others, suspending your own opinions, and creating a safe space for open dialogue.
    • Turning Wounds into Wisdom: Process your emotions, find support, and transform toxic workplace experiences into opportunities for growth
    • Taking Action and Mobilising Change: Move beyond complaining and trauma bonding
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    35 分
  • WE NEED MORE MATURE LEADERS

    WE NEED MORE MATURE LEADERS
    2025/08/17
    Mastering Workplace Dynamics with Emotional Intelligence (Part 1)

    Is your workplace a breeding ground for drama and frustration? Do you dream of leading with confidence and building strong, authentic relationships with your colleagues?

    In Part 1 of this game-changing conversation with Executive Coach Alicia Pieterse, we expose the secrets to becoming a mature leader and transforming your workplace into a thriving environment. Get ready to ditch the office politics and unlock your true leadership potential!

    Alicia and Mpeo crack the code on:
    • Taming the Workplace Jungle: Discover how to spot the telltale signs of a toxic work environment
    • Your Emotional First Aid Kit: Equip yourself with practical, actionable techniques for managing your emotions in the heat of the moment.
    • The Inner Child Decoder: Learn how to identify and manage your "inner child's" knee-jerk reactions in professional settings.
    • The COIN Method: Your Secret Weapon for Feedback: Master the art of giving and receiving feedback with the COIN model (Context, Observable behaviour, Impact, Next steps).
    • Navigating the People Maze: Get practical strategies for building bridges with colleagues you dislike.
    • Demystifying Power Dynamics: Understand the impact of power dynamics in different organisations
    • Brave Conversations, Bold Results: Discover how to prepare for and initiate "brave conversations" that address tough issues head-on.
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    50 分
  • OFFICE POLITICS: THE GAME YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO IGNORE

    OFFICE POLITICS: THE GAME YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO IGNORE
    2025/07/27
    Decoding the Hidden Rules of the Workplace: a Guide to Office Politics.

    In this episode, Mpeo Nkosi dives deep into the often-dreaded world of office politics with guest Niven Postma, a strategy and leadership consultant and author of "If You Don't Do Politics, Politics Will Do You."

    Niven and Mpeo dismantle common myths surrounding workplace dynamics, revealing that political intelligence isn't about manipulation, but rather about understanding the unspoken rules, building relationships, and ethically wielding influence to achieve your goals and support your team.

    Key Discussion Points:
    • Defining Office Politics
    • The Inevitability of Politics
    • The Five Myths of Office Politics
    • Ethical Influence
    • Understanding Your "Otherness"
    • The Power of Visibility
    • Avoiding Political Suicide
    • Toxic Work Environments
    • The Problem with "Empowerment" and "Authenticity"
    • Mistaking Activity for Achievement
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    1 時間 8 分
  • DECODING PERIMENOPAUSE

    DECODING PERIMENOPAUSE
    2025/06/22
    Perimenopause Symptoms, Stages, and Self-Advocacy with Xoli Madlala.

    Are you feeling lost in the confusing world of perimenopause? Hot flashes, mood swings, sleep troubles... where do you even begin?

    Join Mpeo Nkosi as she sits down with South African menopause advocate Xoli Madlala, author of The Perimenopausal Globetrotter, to unravel the mysteries of this significant life transition. In this candid conversation, they dive into the 34 symptoms of perimenopause, discuss how to advocate for yourself with your doctor, and share practical tips for thriving through this often-challenging time. Learn about healthy lifestyle changes, the importance of partner support, and how to navigate the cultural and religious perspectives surrounding menopause.

    If you're ready to take control of your health and embrace this new chapter, this episode is for you!

    You can follow Xoli Madlala on @maskoffwithxoli on Instagram to order her book.
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    1 時間 28 分
  • THE ART OF SELF-FORGIVENESS

    THE ART OF SELF-FORGIVENESS
    2025/06/08
    Meet yourself with compassion.

    In this powerful episode, Mpeo Nkosi and Coach Tumi Sibanda dive deep into the vital practice of self-forgiveness. If you've ever struggled with letting go of past decisions, this episode is for you.

    Coach Tumi Sibanda is a recalibration catalyst, author, and coach who helps professionals and entrepreneurs align their lives with their authentic selves. She is the author of "You Are Enough" and owns SAHNO (Sahno.africa), a company focused on personal and professional development.

    Key Discussion Points:
    • Understanding the difference between shame and guilt, and how shame can hinder self-acceptance.
    • The importance of recognising human evolution and change in the context of personal growth.
    • A practical four-step process for moving forward from past mistakes: acknowledgment, personal responsibility, emotional processing, and forgiveness.
    • The power of daily rituals, including a mirror session, to reinforce self-forgiveness and commitment.
    • How idealistic notions and societal pressures can drive decisions that aren't aligned with your true values.
    • The role of self-awareness in making deliberate life decisions and aligning your choices with your authentic self.
    • How to make new choices
    • How to give yourself some grace Tumi Sibanda's website
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    49 分
  • CO-PARENTING TRUTH: DON'T WEAPONISE YOUR CHILDREN

    CO-PARENTING TRUTH: DON'T WEAPONISE YOUR CHILDREN
    2025/05/25
    Thandi Domingo on Single Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Blended Families.

    In this episode, Mpeo Nkosi welcomes Thandi Domingo, a leading coach specialising in single parenting, co-parenting strategies, and the unique dynamics of blended families. She is the author of "To Single Moms with Love" and co-author of "The Blended and the Beautiful." Thandi shares her transformative personal journey from navigating the challenges of single motherhood to successfully co-parenting and building a thriving blended family.

    Thandi dives into key topics such as:
    • The "Single Mom" Label: Understanding its impact and redefining motherhood beyond marital status.
    • Co-Parenting Evolution: From parallel parenting to effective communication and a functional co-parenting relationship.
    • Mediation in Co-Parenting: How mediation can regulate emotions, establish structure, and create court-ordered parenting plans that prioritise children's needs.
    • Dating as a Single Parent: Guidance on timing, introducing new partners, and navigating the complexities of dating while parenting.
    • Blended Family Dynamics: The importance of pre-marital counselling, communication, and understanding in blended family situations.
    • Restoring the Black Family: Thandi's vision for empowering women and encouraging men to embrace their roles in nurturing children. Thandi and Lunga's episode on The Conversation Capital with Ursula Mariani · Co-Parenting WorkBook and Resource
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    1 時間 37 分
  • WHAT WILL THE NEIGHBOURS SAY?

    WHAT WILL THE NEIGHBOURS SAY?
    2025/05/11
    Go Deeper with Coach Alicia - Breaking Free from Fragile Peace.

    Welcome back to "Go Deeper," the segment where host Mpeo Nkosi and Coach Alicia Pieterse dive into the questions that linger after thought-provoking guest interviews. This week, they unpack the concept of "fragile peace" and its impact on individuals and communities.

    Inspired by a conversation with Lesedi Molefi, author of Patient 12A, on the episode “The Cost of Fragile Peace” Mpeo and Coach Alicia explore the idea of "fragile peace" and how we prioritise silence over truth to maintain appearances. We discuss how this dynamic manifests in black and brown communities, the generational impact of suppressing emotions, and the steps individuals can take to break free from these harmful cycles.

    Key Discussion Points:
    • Defining "fragile peace" and its prevalence in certain cultural contexts.
    • The roots of fragile peace in working-class families and the pressure to maintain appearances.
    • The generational impact of fragile peace: how trauma and coping mechanisms are passed down.
    • The cost of suppression and pretence: depression, substance abuse, and numbing behaviours.
    • The importance of breaking the cycle of silence and finding the courage to speak truth.
    • The difference between loyalty and complicity.
    • Practical steps for breaking free from fragile peace: self-reflection, honest conversations, and seeking professional help.
    • The power of finding your voice and creating safety for authentic expression.
    • The importance of starting with small changes in your immediate environment.
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    31 分
  • THE COST OF FRAGILE PEACE

    THE COST OF FRAGILE PEACE
    2025/04/27
    Mental Health & Systemic Issues in South Africa (Part 2).

    Mpeo Nkosi continues her powerful conversation with Lesedi Molefi, author of Patient 12A, exploring the profound impact of systemic issues on mental health in South Africa. Lesedi shares his experiences navigating poverty, confronting suppressed anger, and overcoming the stigma surrounding mental health within his community. He challenges the notion of “fragile peace,” highlighting the need for authentic emotional expression and systemic change. This essential episode tackles complex issues of race, trauma, and societal structures, offering valuable insights into mental health and well-being.

    Key Discussion Points:
    - Emotional Suppression & Depression: Lesedi explains how societal pressures and personal experiences led to the suppression of emotions.
    - Anger and Trauma: The various ways suppressed anger can manifest, the importance of healthy anger expression.
    - Privilege and Poverty: Lesedi's unique experiences navigating both privilege and poverty and how it shaped his life.
    - Workplace Dynamics & Trauma: The challenges faced by Black professionals in corporate environments, the rewards of high-functioning depression, and the suppression of authentic emotions.
    - Mental Health Stigma: The stigma surrounding mental health in Black communities, historical factors contributing to this stigma.
    - The Cost of Fragile Peace: A critical examination of the detrimental effects of maintaining a façade of peace over addressing family issues. Purchase this powerful memoir here
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    36 分