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Host Peg McDermott and co-host Heather Hagaman discuss the question “Are you an alcoholic?” prompted by a listener who doesn’t identify as having an addiction but wonders if the podcast applies to them.

They explore how “habit” and “addiction” differ, how stereotypes and denial can hide problem drinking, and share personal timelines of escalating consequences, cravings, blackouts, DUIs, and minimizing behavior. They describe addiction as a chronic brain disease marked by psychological and physical compulsion, continued use despite negative consequences, and “alcohol noise,” and note that labels must be self-identified.

They offer self-check questions about control, failed attempts to cut back, time and money spent, impacts on relationships and responsibilities, and emphasize that recovery involves addressing underlying emotional pain, boundaries, and broader life challenges beyond drinking.

00:00 Welcome and Introductions
00:22 Am I an Alcoholic
02:40 Peg’s Drinking Wake Up Call
05:00 Heather’s Realization Story
08:50 Alcoholic Stereotypes and Family
11:58 Habits vs Addiction Explained
13:52 DUI and Legal Consequences
17:28 Denial Rules and Cravings
21:37 Addiction as Nervous System Strategy
22:34 Self Check Questions and Alcohol Noise
29:08 Beyond Substances Whole Enchilada Recovery
31:46 Closing and Subscribe