What if the ego isn't something you need to destroy, but something you need to integrate?

In this episode of Alive & Awake, we explore the ego, the protective parts of our personality, and how childhood experiences shape the ways we learn to survive.

Rather than “ego death,” what if the work is learning to integrate the parts of you that became fearful, controlling, perfectionistic, or people-pleasing in an attempt to keep you safe?

We’ll explore the six essential childhood needs, how unmet needs shape our adult patterns, and why inner child healing and self-honesty are essential to spiritual awakening, self-leadership, and sovereignty.

• Why the ego doesn't need to die—and what actually needs to change
• How childhood experiences shape our protective personality parts
• The six essential needs that shape our sense of self
• Why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and survival strategies develop
• How inner child healing connects to spiritual awakening
• Using self-honesty to move from survival into self-leadership and sovereignty

The Way of Transformation: By Jeshua Ben Joseph

The Way of the Heart: By Jeshua Ben Joseph

00:00 Why Some Parts of You Don't Feel Safe With Love

01:30 The Ego Doesn't Need to Die

06:00 How the Ego Is Formed

10:48 The Inner Child & the Path to Awakening

11:37 The Six A's Every Child Needs

17:32 How the Need for Approval Creates People-Pleasing

18:46 Survival Mode & the Need for External Control

22:10 Self-Honesty: The Greatest Act of Love

22:47 Creating Your Heaven on Earth

26:59 The Six A's: Looking at Your Own Childhood

29:33 What's Next: Inner Child Healing

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What happens when the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to suppress, shame, or reject begin demanding our attention?

In this episode of Alive & Awake, Alicia explores the significance of Black Moon Lilith moving into Capricorn for a nine-month journey through June 2027, and what this may bring to the surface around authority, power, responsibility, authenticity, and self-worth.

Alicia also shares a personal relationship experience that revealed deeper patterns around conflict, self-expression, and the ways we can abandon ourselves in an effort to maintain peace.

In this episode, we explore:

• The significance of Black Moon Lilith moving through Capricorn

• The shadow aspects of authority, power, responsibility, and worth

• Reclaiming the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to judge or suppress

• How family programming shapes our relationship with power and authenticity

• How conscious relationships can become corrective experiences for old wounds

• Using your birth chart to explore the area of life being activated over the next nine months

If old triggers, relationship patterns, or uncomfortable emotions are surfacing right now, they may be inviting you into deeper self-awareness, not deeper self-abandonment.

Your reflection: Where does Capricorn fall in your birth chart, and what might that area of your life be asking you to reclaim?

Share what comes up for you in the comments.

Next episode: We begin exploring how the ego is formed and how our personality develops in response to our early experiences of safety, connection, and survival.

Timestamps:

00:00 — The Feminine Collective: What Is Happening Right Now?

00:58 — Black Moon Lilith Moves Into Capricorn

05:09 — Reclaiming the Parts of Ourselves We’ve Been Taught to Reject

08:45 — Hyper-Independence, the Inner Masculine & Returning to the Feminine

12:25 — The Ego, the Inner Child & Reclaiming Your Authentic Self

14:10 — My September 15th Relationship Trigger

16:12 — Find Capricorn in Your Birth Chart: Your 9-Month Shadow Work

18:21 — Conscious Relationships as Corrective Experiences

21:43 — Embodying the Inner Masculine & Inner Feminine

23:39 — What Is Your Work for the Next Nine Months?

24:31 — Remembering Your Radiance + Awaken with Alicia

25:24 — Closing

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What happens when the part of you that wants to feel safe is at war with the part of you that wants to feel free?

In this episode of Alive & Awake, we dive into the internal conflict between the ego and the soul, and why the spiritual path can sometimes make that conflict feel even louder. The ego is constantly asking, “Is it safe to be myself?” while the soul is calling us toward authenticity, freedom, self-expression, and expansion.

I share more of my personal journey toward sacred union and the deep inner work that was required to release fear, distrust, and old patterns so I could become the woman who could fully receive the relationship I had always desired. Along the way, we explore why our relationships, experiences, and triggers can reveal where we are still hiding, protecting, or abandoning ourselves.

In this episode, we explore:

• The difference between the ego/personality self and the soul/true self
• Why the ego's primary goal is safety rather than freedom
• How fear can keep us from speaking our truth and pursuing our desires
• The internal question beneath so many protective patterns: “Is it safe to be myself?”
• How the ego encourages us to conform, belong, and stay within what feels familiar
• Why the soul calls us toward authenticity, individuality, creativity, and expansion
• The difference between perceived external safety and the experience of inner safety
• Why we cannot experience true outer union without first developing inner union
• How this inner conflict can show up in relationships, career, self-expression, and purpose
• Learning to recognize whether you're listening to the voice of fear or the calling of your soul

If you've been feeling torn between who you've been conditioned to be and who you're being called to become, this episode is an invitation to get radically honest with yourself.

Where are you still abandoning yourself for a perceived sense of safety, and what is your soul actually calling you to pursue?

In the next episode, we'll dive deeper into how the ego is formed and the different parts of our personality, beginning to uncover what exists underneath the protective patterns.

⏱️ Timestamps:

0:00 The Internal Conflict Between Ego & Soul

1:37 My Journey Toward Sacred Union

4:47 Why the Ego Wants You to Feel Safe

5:32 The Soul’s Desire for Freedom & Authenticity

6:27 Understanding the Ego vs. the Soul

8:00 What My 10-Page Letter Revealed About My Ego

10:39 Learning to Trust God & My Own Divinity

11:28 How the Ego Keeps You Stuck in Fear

13:38 How Ego & Soul Compete for Your Attention

16:01 The Path Is Revealed by Walking It

17:32 How Much Do You Trust the Desire of Your Heart?

18:31 Inner Union Comes Before Outer Union

19:01 The Deeper Work of Remembering Your Radiance

20:01 Where Are You Still Abandoning Yourself?

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