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Your brain wants a hit, your body wants connection, and sometimes those two don’t line up. We get real about the link between ADHD and sex, from dopamine chasing and novelty seeking to impulsive choices that can feel like autopilot in the moment and brutal in the comedown. If you’ve ever wondered why you can be intensely driven one day and totally flat the next, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.

We talk through what ADHD can look like in intimacy and relationships: hyperfocus, distraction, disassociation, and that “500 tabs open” feeling that can follow you even when you’re trying to be present. We unpack the thrill of flirting and fantasies, the risks of pushing boundaries for stimulation, and why shame and regret can bite hard afterwards. We also get practical, sharing simple coping ideas like using “urgent” time frames to kickstart action, plus a grounded reminder that support from a GP or psychologist can help when porn use, sleep, or impulse control starts running your life.

Then we do what we do best and get silly. Expect filthy laughs, the Red Light Reading Room (yes, there’s cruising advice and a strangely sexy oyster-shucking guide), and a full-throttle round of Lesser of Two Evils where we argue our way through truly cursed celebrity choices.

If you like your queer podcast equal parts unfiltered and thoughtful, hit play, subscribe, and share it with a curious mate. After you listen, leave a review and tell us: does ADHD crank your desire up, shut it down, or both?

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