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Dr. Elise Fallucco, child psychiatrist and host of the ADHD Anxiety and More podcast, shares parent-focused tips for raising resilient, capable children.

She talks about 3 contrasting parenting styles—rescuer, laid-back, and coach— and talks about when each style makes sense.

The Rescuer Parent - wants to FIX problems FOR their child

The Laid-back Parent - lets their child sort things out on their own

The Coach Parent - Workings WITH the child to help them solve problems

She explains common age-based struggles (emotional regulation in preschool, frustration with academics and skills in early grades, and social dynamics in grades 3–5) and reframes disappointment and failure as normal developmental opportunities.

Using the “fail, try, succeed” cycle, she shows how rescuing can stunt growth, then offers coaching steps—validate feelings and ask how to support or guide with questions—through examples like not getting a desired role in a play, homework meltdowns, and forgetting water bottles.

00:00 Welcome and Goals

01:02 Parenting Styles Quiz

02:17 Why Kids Struggle

04:30 Fail Try Succeed Cycle

05:41 Stop Rescuing Start Coaching

07:26 Case Study School Play

10:08 Case Study Homework Meltdown

11:36 Case Study Forgotten Water Bottle

12:41 Final Takeaways and Wrap Up

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