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73. Why Your Deeply Feeling Child Goes from 0 to 100 — and What to Do About It

73. Why Your Deeply Feeling Child Goes from 0 to 100 — and What to Do About It

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Have you ever watched your child completely fall apart over something that seemed so small — and found yourself thinking, “What just happened? Why is this so intense every single time?”It’s completely normal to feel confused, exhausted, and honestly a little defeated when your child’s reactions feel so out of proportion to the moment. You’re doing your best, and yet you walk on eggshells through every transition, every no, every ordinary Tuesday. I know it’s hard when you love your child so deeply and still feel like you’re constantly one wrong move away from a full-blown meltdown.There’s actually a really important reason these kids experience the world the way they do — and it has nothing to do with bad parenting or a broken child.In my latest episode, I sat down with Megan Robertson, founder of New Leaf Parent Coaching and a certified Peaceful Parenting coach. Megan works specifically with families of kids ages 4 to 8 who would be described as deeply feeling, highly sensitive, or explosive — and she came to this work the same way so many of us did. Through her own family.She thought parenthood would be rainbows and butterflies. It wasn’t. Her daughter struggled intensely with big feelings, and the family spent a lot of time and money trying to “fix” the child — until Megan realized the child wasn’t the one who needed fixing. What needed to change was the way the whole family understood what was happening, and how they responded. That shift changed everything. And she’s been helping other families find that same shift ever since.What I love about the way Megan explains deeply feeling kids is how clearly she separates them from kids who just have a hard time sometimes. Sound familiar? Have you noticed that validating your child’s feelings in the moment sometimes makes things worse, not better? That’s actually not a failure on your part. Megan explains that for deeply feeling kids, the feeling itself puts them in a state of perceived threat — they don’t just feel frustrated, they go straight to “I am a bad kid,” and from there, their nervous system responds like survival is on the line. That’s why the behavior can look so extreme.She also introduced something that stopped me in my tracks — the concept of the shame spiral that deeply feeling kids get caught in, and how our instinct as parents to either make the behavior stop or teach a lesson in the moment is the exact wrong move for these particular kids.So what do we actually do? Megan walks us through the three-part framework she uses with families:In the moment of dysregulation, less is more. Your only job is to stay calm and keep people safe. Any words you say are more for you than for your child at that point. She talks about what that looks like practically, including when a child is physically aggressive.Hours outside the moment, you build skills — but indirectly. One of my favorite strategies she shares is what she calls emotional vaccination: preparing your child for a difficult feeling before it arrives, and doing it in a way that makes them feel like they’re not alone in it. You’ll want to hear the specific example she gives, because it’s something you could try tonight.And then there’s the connection piece, which I know can feel impossible when you’re running on empty and honestly feeling some resentment toward a child who seems to reject every overture you make. Megan is so real about this, and she offers the most doable, low-effort way to start building connection back — even when you have nothing left to give and even when your child pushes you away.We also got into something that I think every parent of a deeply feeling child needs to hear: you are not broken, and neither is your child. Megan says that every single parent she works with has found some specific reason that it’s their fault their child is this way. Every one. And responding from that shame keeps us from responding in the ways that actually help. We talked about how to start offering yourself the same compassion you’re trying to give your child — because the two really are inseparable.I promise you this conversation will bring you clarity, and maybe even some relief, about why your child is the way they are and what you can actually do about it.🎙️ Click below to listen to the full episode.To learn more about Megan Robertson and New Leaf Parent Coaching:https://www.newleafparentcoaching.comhttp://www.newleafparentcoaching.com/delight Before you go — something is coming up on May 28th that I really want you to know about.If sibling conflict is making you feel like a full-time referee in your own home — the constant bickering, the fighting over nothing, the tattling that echoes through every room — I’m hosting a free live workshop just for you.I’ll walk you through what’s really going on underneath all that sibling rivalry, why kids get stuck in those patterns, and exactly what to say and ...
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