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553-The Fatherhood Focus That Changes Everything with Brad Rhoads

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The Fatherhood Focus That Changes Everything with Brad Rhoads "Most parents miss the joys of parenting trying to be a good parent." That's what Brad Rhoads's mentor told him. And it wrecked him in the best way. Brad's a father of five. Married to Marilyn for 30 years. He ran a law practice for 22 years before launching Grace Marriage (gracemarriage.com), a ministry that equips churches with ongoing marriage support. But fatherhood? He'll tell you he was overcomplicating it. Diet, academics, activities, spiritual development, family worship. The list felt endless. And no matter how hard he tried, it never felt like enough. Then his mentor said something that shifted everything: "Brad, just make it your mission that your children feel delighted in. That they feel there's nobody in the world that likes them more than you." Not 800 things. One thing. Delight. And here's what happened: one of his daughters told him, "Dad, a lot of dads spend time with their kids, but I can tell you actually want to." That's the fruit of delight. Not perfection. Not checking every parenting box. Just a kid who knows her dad likes her. I'll add, since Brad, a man of genuine integrity, graciousness, and generous character likes his kids, they WANT to be like him. It reminds me of God and the way he loves us. When we believe we are delighted in, we are drawn to love and delight Him even more! Husband, if the enemy's been whispering that you're a terrible father, this episode is for you. Delight changes everything. He also says the number first thing you need to be a great dad, is to be a great husband. At DYM we coach husbands and wives to transform their marriage even if only one does the work, but we encourage the husbands to go first. Blessings, Belah PS - Want more insight into the health of your marriage? Take our free Marital Health Assessment to find out your Marital Health score. PPS - Ready to start your healing journey? Schedule a free Clarity Call and see if our programs are the right fit for you. PPPS - Here is what (another) recent Coaching Graduate had to say: [before coaching], "I thought things were great in our relationship" [after coaching] "I didn't know that this program could take our relationship to an even better level. I didn't know that there was still room to fall even more in love or be more grateful and close with my husband." Here is an AI-generated summary of today's episode: The Fatherhood Focus That Changes Everything: Interview with Brad Rhoads What if fatherhood didn't have to feel like drowning? Brad Rhoads, father of five, married 30 years, former attorney, and founder of Grace Marriage, sits down with Belah to share the one shift that transformed his parenting: making delight primary. His mentor called parenting "the modern-day black hole" and gave Brad a single mission: make sure your kids feel like nobody in the world likes them more than you. In this episode, Brad unpacks how that one phrase changed how he spends time with his kids, how he handles the hard seasons, and why the best thing a father can do for his children is love their mom well. "Parenting Is the Modern-Day Black Hole" Brad's mentor laid it out: the good diet, the activities, the music, the academics, the spiritual development, the family worship. "He said just like, ugh." The pressure to be a perfect parent is crushing, and it often backfires. "Most parents miss the joys of parenting trying to be a good parent. They feel this weight to really be a good, godly parent, but then their kids don't even necessarily feel like their parents like them." The mentor's counsel was simple: "Just enjoy your kids, and ultimately whoever's kindest will have the most influence." Make Delight Primary Brad shifted from analyzing everything to having fun with his kids. Not throwing discipline out the door, but flipping the priority. "I find that those that make discipline primary, it tends to cause rebellion." The more he did stuff his kids wanted to do, the more he liked them, and the more he wanted to spend time with them. It became a virtuous cycle. "Whoever likes you the most is who you're gonna wanna spend time around. And if you can tell somebody really wants to spend time with you, really enjoys their time with you, really thinks you're cool, really is into what you're doing, you're gonna be like, 'I kinda like that person.'" The Power of Pursuit Brad built simple, consistent rhythms: one morning a week breakfast with each kid (often McDonald's or Huddle House), one overnight a year with each child, and activities tailored to each kid's interests. One daughter loves the NFL, so they go to a different venue every year. Another got into golf, and it's now Brad's primary time with her. "The beauty of golf is if it's somebody you wanna pour into, golf takes a long time. And you're sitting beside somebody." He's also seen what happens when pursuit comes too late. Friends who tried to start breakfast dates with their high school kids found ...
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