Are certain communication patterns quietly damaging your Christian marriage?

Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling can slowly break down trust, connection, and intimacy between husband and wife. But these behaviors are often only part of the story. Underneath them may be deeper patterns connected to fear, insecurity, and attachment.

In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack the 4 communication patterns that can destroy a marriage, how attachment styles influence the way couples handle conflict, and what it looks like to move toward greater security through your identity in Christ.

You'll discover:

• The 4 destructive communication patterns to watch for

• Why criticism and contempt can be so damaging

• What defensiveness and stonewalling may reveal

• How anxious and avoidant attachment create a chase-and-withdraw cycle

• What secure attachment looks like in marriage

• How growing in your identity in Christ can change the way you respond to conflict

• Practical steps toward healthier communication and deeper connection

This conversation isn't about diagnosing or blaming your spouse. It's about recognizing unhealthy patterns, taking responsibility for your own growth, and allowing God to transform the way you love and communicate.

If your marriage feels stuck in the same arguments, distance, or communication problems, there is hope. Change can begin with becoming aware of the pattern and choosing a different response.

Visit Greater Impact Couples for Christian marriage resources, coaching, a free marriage assessment, and the free 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells resource.

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