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Confidence is a feeling. Competence is evidence. And when the evidence changes, the feelings don't always catch up.

Join Anna and Tim as they dig into what Anna's calling the imposter phenomenon, not syndrome, and why it doesn't fade with success; it gets louder. They talk about the corrupt accounting system that discounts every win and magnifies every mistake, what happens when your identity lags behind a new role, and why some high achievers have been running on anxiety without realizing it's the only thing keeping them going. Tim pushes back with a football analogy Anna isn't fully buying, and they land on the five questions worth asking yourself the next time the doubt creeps back in.

This Episode Covers:

• Learning to separate what actually happened from the story you add to it within seconds.
• Using internal family systems to notice which part of you is driving the reaction, not the whole self.
• Realizing the real question under most fights is: are you there for me? Can I reach you?
• Naming the cycle as the actual problem instead of each other: the pattern where one pursues, and the other withdraws.
• Choosing to be effective over being right, even when you have the receipts to prove you're correct.
• Noticing the small daily bids for connection instead of waiting for the big romantic gestures.
• Making the repair instead of chasing perfect communication.
• Recognizing that a partner cannot be responsible for managing your entire inner world.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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