Last week, a top couples therapist presented us with the research. This week it’s just us, no therapist in the room, trading what has actually worked in our own long-term relationships (and what has very much not). Cass gets into her current trying-list for keeping sex alive when she's tired, parenting, and has nothing left. Em gets into how she ruined sex for herself in past relationships without even realizing it. Cass opens up for the first time, with her husband’s permission, about his bipolar diagnosis and the “my person wouldn’t do that” story she had to let go of to stay married. For anyone who felt called tf out by last week's episode and wants the unqualified besties version.

What you’ll learn:

• The two “secrets” we’re actually using to keep our relationships alive and thriving (tbh therapists might not agree lol)
• Cass’s current trying-list for keeping sex alive 10 years into her long-term love (pink pill, non-sexual touch, accountability for her desire, and actually using the resources we talk about)
• Why using sex as a repair tool is the fastest way to kill it, and what to use it for instead
• How to tell when you’ve slipped into a story about your partner (“they don’t get me,” “my person wouldn’t do that”) and how to quit before it ruins your relationship
• Our actual rules for what you can and can’t tell your friends about fights with your partner
• The habits we each need to kick to feel like adults in our relationships (one of us is lazy, one of us is a control freak)
• The very petty list of what the men we’ve slept with need to start doing to qualify as grownups

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