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What do you do when loving your baby means having to say goodbye to him before he's even born?

In this episode I sit down with Rosanna Brown, who takes us inside one of the most misunderstood and least-talked-about kinds of loss there is: TFMR, termination for medical reasons. At her 20-week scan, Rosanna and her husband learned their son William had a condition that meant he would never survive outside the womb, and in the space of 24 hours, they were faced with a choice no parent should ever have to make.

Rosanna is sharing all of it with us today, the diagnosis, the decision, the days she spent with William after, and the grief, guilt, and judgment that still live alongside her love for him.

✨ How a routine 20-week "gender scan" turned into the day Rosanna says she died right along with the version of herself she used to be
✨ William's diagnosis, CHAOS syndrome and hydrops fetalis, and the impossible choice Rosanna and her husband were given
✨ The complicated, guilt-soaked relief that comes with ending your child's suffering
✨ Rebuilding an identity after a loss like this, and why Rosanna doesn't want the old version of herself back
✨ The friendships that fell away, and the unexpected people who showed up for her instead
✨ Grieving differently than her husband did, and what that taught her about holding space for someone else's version of grief
✨ The legal and political reality surrounding TFMR, and how it adds a layer of judgment to an already devastating loss
✨ Her book, The Silence of TFMR, why she wrote it, and why she hopes it ends up in the hands of every parent facing this diagnosis

If you've ever had to make a choice no one should have to make, or you love someone who has, I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone in it.

Connect with Rosanna

• https://watkinspublishinglinks.com/the-silence-of-tfmr-landing-page
• https://www.instagram.com/thesilenceof_tfmr/

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