In episode 138, we're talking about the gratitude narrative that's been quietly costing you your paycheck, your title, and your peace.

If you were raised to believe that having a job at all is something to be grateful for, full stop, this episode is for you. That belief kept generations before you safe. It might also be the reason you're doing a job above your title for free right now.

In this conversation, I break down where that gratitude narrative comes from, what it actually costs you when you stay stuck in it, and why gratitude and ambition were never supposed to be opposites.

In this episode, I cover:
→ Where the "just be grateful to have a job" wisdom comes from, and why it isn't wrong, just incomplete
→ What "gratitude priced labor" looks like: the interim role that never converts, the stipend instead of the raise, the promotion that keeps getting delayed
→ A real client story of the moment gratitude turned into resentment, and what changed the second she said "I want more" out loud

Key Takeaways:
– Gratitude and ambition are not opposites. You can deeply value what you have and still require the title and pay that match your work.
– If you're being paid in "thank yous" instead of your market rate, that's a pattern worth naming, not a character flaw.
– The market being hard is a reason to get strategic, not a reason to stay silent.
– Review cycles are where decisions get announced, not where they get made.
– Say it out loud: I am grateful, and I want more.

Chapters:
00:00 Welcome & About the Podcast
01:02 The Client Quote That Started This Episode
01:43 Where the Gratitude Narrative Comes From
02:11 Gratitude Priced Labor: What It Actually Costs You
03:30 A Client Story: When Gratitude Turns Into Resentment
04:52 Gratitude and Ambition Are Not Opposites
06:08 Reframing "The Market Is Bad" and "I'll Wait for Review"
06:52 The Exercise: Say It Out Loud

How to work together - book a call or DM with questions on IG or LI.

• Book a Discovery Call ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn what it's like to work together
• Connect and DM on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.linkedin.com/in/dani-tan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Connect and DM on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/danitani/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• My site: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.danitan.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my weekly newsletter