Losing yourself in a relationship? Why healing starts from the inside out.

You've tried so hard to heal your relationship that you don't even know what you need anymore.

You've read the books, saved the communication scripts, planned the date nights, and practiced the conversation word for word. And somewhere in all that trying, your peace ended up waiting on him. In this episode, Dr. Dar Hawks shares why almost all relationship advice starts in the wrong place, and why real healing starts with you, without leaving, without confronting him, and without giving less.

In this episode:

• What losing yourself in a relationship really looks like, day to day

• Two ways to look for peace: from the outside in, or from the inside out

• How your sense of okay moved outside of you, and why it isn't your fault

• What changes when you start trusting yourself again, even before he does anything differently

• What healing from the inside out is not

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