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050. The Art of Listening- How to Make Anyone Feel Heard & Understood with Cameron Barbarick

050. The Art of Listening- How to Make Anyone Feel Heard & Understood with Cameron Barbarick

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Most people aren't listening to you. They're listening to themselves, thinking about what they want to say next.This week on Sex Ritual Radio, Rose Heartsong sits down with Cameron Barbaric, a communications coach and relational intelligence expert, to break down why so many of us think we're good listeners and aren't, and what it actually takes to make another person feel fully heard. Rose Heartsong is an intimacy and erotic intelligence coach (often called a sex coach), somatic kink practitioner, and host of Sex Ritual Radio on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio station, airing live every Sunday night.Cameron defines relational intelligence as listening in a deep, attuned way that gives another person the felt experience of being heard, seen, and understood. He explains why traditional communication training, focused on how you look, sound, and perform, falls apart the moment things get stressful, because we don't rise to the level of our technique, we fall to the level of our nervous system capacity. Rose and Cameron dig into the difference between listening to respond and listening reactively from your own internal dialogue, using a real coaching example of a man who thought he was listening to his girlfriend and was actually just formulating his next line.The conversation moves through some of the most useful frameworks either of them teaches: why 93 percent of communication is non-verbal (the same word said two different ways carries two completely different meanings), the difference between the masculine instinct to fix and the feminine instinct to feel, and why understanding a partner's hormonal cycle changes how you listen to them. They talk through the salt and the salve, an analogy from The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz, and how every person gets to choose which one they bring into a hard conversation.Rose and Cameron also get personal. Rose shares her own pattern of poking the bear in past relationships, a pattern she learned from watching her parents, and the exact moment two and a half years ago when she chose not to poke anymore. Cameron walks through several of what he calls the major breakdowns of communication: misplaced righteousness, manipulation, violent communication (including passive aggressive withholding), gossip, dishonesty, and distracted listening, and gives a simple 30 second rule for catching a trigger before it becomes a spiral. They also get into sovereignty versus codependency, why codependent energy flatlines erotic charge in a relationship, and the concept of frog farming from Allison Armstrong's The Queen's Code.Rose closes the conversation by tying it back to her own work: how she teaches deep listening as an embodied, even kinky practice with the men she coaches, and why presence, not technique, is the real skill underneath good sex and good communication.What you'll learn in this episode What relational intelligence actually means and how it differs from typical communication trainingWhy nervous system capacity, not technique, determines how well you communicate under stressThe difference between listening to respond and listening from reactivityWhy 93 percent of communication is non-verbal, and how tone alone changes meaningThe salt and the salve: how to soothe a partner instead of escalating conflict Sovereignty versus codependency, and why codependency kills erotic chargeThe 30 second rule for catching a trigger before it becomes a fight Several of the major breakdowns of communication: misplaced righteousness, manipulation, violent communication, gossip, dishonesty, and distracted listeningWhat frog farming means and how women unintentionally do it to men How deep listening can become an embodied, even erotic practice0:00 Intro and welcoming Cameron Barbaric2:00 What relational intelligence actually means5:00 Why technique fails and capacity is what matters8:00 Listening to respond versus listening reactively10:30 Case study: the couple who felt unheard14:00 Why 93 percent of communication is non-verbal16:30 Masculine fixing versus feminine relational listening19:00 Understanding the female hormonal cycle in communication21:00 The ping pong problem and communicating desire safely23:30 The Mastery of Love: the salt and the salve26:30 Sovereignty, codependency, and erotic charge29:30 The feminist movement and a generational shift in relationships32:30 The 30 second rule for catching a trigger35:00 Communication breakdowns: misplaced righteousness and manipulation37:00 Violent communication and poking the bear39:30 Gossip: when it protects and when it destroys42:00 Dishonesty versus lying43:30 Distracted listening and the practice of presence45:00 Rose's story: the night she stopped poking the bear47:00 The Queen's Code and frog farming48:00 Listening as an embodied, kinky practice49:00 Where to find Cameron https://mysacredstage.com/ ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨🌹 Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com🛏 Splash Blanket - 10% off with ...
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