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What happens when a man stops drifting, gets clear on who he is, and starts leading from a grounded, God-given identity?

In this episode of Nutrition Gateway, I’m joined by Dusty Lapp- husband, father, minister, mentor, coach, and former professional bullfighter - celebrating his new book Kingdom Men: Rise, Lead, Finish. Dusty unpacks why sonship comes before striving, why identity is the first battlefield for men, and how vision (or lack of it) shapes marriage, family, health, and legacy.

We talk masculinity in today’s culture, why “toxic masculinity” is a lazy label, and what leadership actually looks like at home (often quiet, consistent, and courageous). Dusty also shares encouragement for wives carrying too much; and why prayer and honour can become catalysts for change.

If you’re raising boys, married to a man finding his feet, or you’re a man who knows you were made for more - this will land.

What You’ll Learn (Key Takeaways)

• Identity before activity: worth isn’t earned-sonship/acceptance comes first (Matthew 3–4).
• Why men drift without vision -and how that impacts the whole household.
• Maturity isn’t age; it’s responsibility.
• Masculine leadership: protect, guide, govern (bring order and safety).
• Why men disengage under repeated criticism (withdrawal is common).
• The “crown” principle: words can strengthen leadership - or undermine it.
• Why prayer shifts the dynamic when control is released.
• Fathering shapes identity: what children believe they deserve and pursue.
• Whole-person health: spirit, soul, body - wholeness brings stability.
• Why Dusty wrote the book: break generational patterns and finish strong.
• Bullfighting lesson: courage moves toward discomfort; fear-marked areas require leadership.

Resources

• Kingdom Men: Rise, Lead, Finish (Dusty Lapp) - Amazon.com.au Kindle
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dusty.lapp.9
• Instagram: @dustyl_kingdommen
• Website: https://kingdommencoaching.com/

Scripture referenced (themes)
Romans 8:19 • Matthew 3–4 • Proverbs 27:17 • Ephesians 2:10 • Exodus 20:5–6

About your host
I’m Sally-Anne Kearns, Functional Nutritional Therapy Practitioner and host of Nutrition Gateway. I help women calm anxiety, clear brain fog, and stabilise energy through simple, stackable micro-habits grounded in nutrition and lifestyle foundations.

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