If you've ever been in a relationship, are in one now or want to be in the future - this book was written for you!

You could almost categorize any relationship in your life in terms of closeness. Call it intimacy, familiarity, whatever - it's more or less the same thing. How close you are, mentally, physically, even sexually.

Whether someone lives near to you, whether you spend a lot of time together, share a history (or a plan for the future), it all comes down to one thing: the extent to which they've closed that distance that was once between you, when you were both strangers to one another.

No two people resolve this distance in quite the same way, of course. Relationships are as similar to each other as the people that make them - that, is, not at all! And just as two strangers can eventually become each other's most significant others ...they can also go back to being strangers, with time.

As much as closeness defines relationships, it also defines all the ways they can go wrong. This theme of close/distant tension rears its head in more relationship complaints that it would first appear:

• Someone is too "clingy"
• Someone is resistant to committing
• A couple are bored with life and with each other
• Somebody cheats
• The passion fades
• A couple are deciding whether to split

In this book, we'll be getting to the root that all these problems share: how to negotiate intimacy and that fine line between "me" and "us".