"No big deal"...for 15 years, these words kept Torey Ivanic from telling her parents, friends, and boyfriends about her interactions with the gymnastics coach who utterly confused her young mind, body, and soul - who had, she eventually came to understand, sexually violated her.

In this memoir, Torey transparently and brilliantly shows how the abuse started, the collateral damage it created in her young life, her realization that it was a big deal, and her journey of healing and justice. After helping to put her perpetrator in prison for 43 years, she created a new life full of real love and joy and became an advocate for sexual abuse prevention.

Most importantly, Torey has lit the path for other victims and their loved ones to:

• Understand exactly how grooming happens 
• Realize it was and is a big deal, and not their fault 
• Identify and address collateral physical and emotional fallout
• Open space for healing 
• Become an advocate for justice and prevention

Whether you have been telling yourself that it was no big deal, or you know it was a big deal and need to know it's possible to move forward - and especially if you have young children and don't know how to protect them - this is the book for you. It is a big deal. And there is something we can do about it.