We all have far more authority than we give ourselves credit for. Our upbringing, the media, rules and regulations, evil religions, outmoded customs and traditions all whittle away at the fabric of who we are.

We have notions that saying NO will offend others, or that if we don't give in to certain things, it will upset others or spoil some grand plan.

Yet whose life are you living? And what right have others to take away what you want, for themselves? There is a big difference between being selfish and taking charge of your life, a very big difference. Getting to grips with saying 'no' - going your own way - goes a long way to allowing you to develop your inherent skills, enjoyment, and uniqueness in life.

Don't be a sponge to others, including family. Why should anyone dictate what you need to do to please them? That is selfishness to the nth degree. Making your mark in life is your right, so be wary of "emotional blackmail" by people trying to coerce you into areas of life via the emotional route, as this is the worst thing anyone can do. It is also deceitful.

Anyone who has problems with overbearing parents or people around them needs to listen to this download; it offers advice and points of view to help you regain who your rightfully are.