What is Blur?

Blur is that muddled state we find ourselves in when we experience mind-boggling life events: cancer, illness, deaths, tornados, hurricanes, and now I need to add Covid to that list. A long string of painful losses—loss of a spouse, a family member or close friend, loss of a job, loss of income, loss of home, loss of control, loss of routine—or too many painful unexpected events too close together—too much change, too much demand, too much uncertainty.

Worry, anxiety, lack of sleep, and loss of health overtake us—plus the accompanying barrage of fears and hesitations these stresses bring. Fear of new places and circumstances, fear of driving in unfamiliar areas, fear of learning new information but not remembering it, fear of painful attempts and failures, forgetfulness, confusion, disorientation, loss of balance, loss of trust in others, loss of dreams, loss of passion, loss of enthusiasm, and most devastating of all—loss of trust in ourselves.

There is a path out of Blur! Skill-by-skill, story-by-story, this book will guide you. And this book shares a powerful and inspiring story of love and resilience.

This is also a book about leadership—how to lead in moments when you are in Blur, or your partner, family, or organization is, and you are asked to step up—even when you don’t feel you can, even when others are not there to play their usual parts, even when you find all your stuff plus all their stuff on your plate—and it’s already overflowing. This is a book about clearing the way ahead, even in the worst of times.