Season 3 Episode 7

Cuddlin and Puddlin Part 2 with Jule Rochelle

This episode explores how the Cuddle Project teaches consent, touch, and embodied communication in a way that helps people feel safer, more regulated, and more connected. Jewel explains how the work moves from awkward first asks to negotiated, consent-based cuddling, and why that process can support confidence, boundaries, and relational skill far beyond the room.Aimee and Sean also dig into how this applies to queer communities, asexual people, couples, and neurodivergent folks, including people with ADHD or autism. The conversation lands on a simple but powerful idea: your body is yours, and your yes and no both matter.

• In this episode: Jule breaks down the Cuddle Project’s step-by-step consent practice, starting with asking to give touch, then asking to receive touch, and noticing how each one feels in the body.
• The group practices “embodied yes” and “embodied no,” encouraging people to pause, breathe, and listen for whether their body feels open, soft, tight, or shut down.
• Jule explains that people do not need to give a reason for saying no, and that “my body says no” can feel more neutral and less loaded.
• The session teaches how to negotiate a cuddle before touching begins, including being specific about what kind of contact is wanted, like spooning, pillows, or positioning.
• The process includes check-ins after a minute or so, plus “escalation” check-ins if someone wants to add touch that was not originally negotiated.
• Jule describes the group formats, including pairs, trios, larger cuddle groups, the “puppy pile,” and the “spoon drawer” with many people participating.
• Aimee and Sean explore how the practice can help people build confidence, advocate for themselves, and carry consent skills into everyday conversations and relationships.
• The discussion touches on how the work can support queer, asexual, and queer platonic experiences by separating touch, intimacy, identity, and sex.
• Jule shares that some couples use the practice to reconnect, rebuild touch without automatically moving toward sex, and create more erotic tension by taking sex off the table for a while.
• The episode also covers the emotional and nervous system benefits of touch, including regulation, bonding, and a sense of belonging.

Season 3 Episode 6: Cuddle Connection Part 1 w/ Jule Rochelle

In this episode, Aimee and Sean talk with Jule, a Halifax-based sex coach trained in the Somatica method, about her Cuddle Project and the larger mission behind it: creating a culture where consent is honoured and people can safely practice saying yes and no with their bodies. The conversation focuses on how structured, nonsexual touch can help people heal trauma, build trust, and experience intimacy without escalation.We discuss how the Cuddle Project works, why it began as a personal healing practice, and what happens when strangers gather in a tightly facilitated space to practice safe touch, boundaries, and co-regulation.

• The Cuddle Project is described as a sober, fully clothed, consent-based, multi-hour cuddle experience.
• The format includes a two-hour initiation process focused on consent language, boundaries, and basic touch games before entering the larger cuddle space.
• Jule explains the “puppy pile” and other cuddle configurations, including a center-person nest setup with mattresses, pillows, and blankets.
• The project has grown into a recurring community with hundreds of initiated participants over four years.
• Jule shares that the project began as a response to her own sexual trauma and the lack of education around consent and relational skills.
• The conversation distinguishes touch, intimacy, and sex, emphasizing that touch does not have to lead to sex or romance.
• Jule discusses how the space can be healing for trauma survivors because participants can observe, participate at their own pace, or stop at any time.
• Jule explains how she handles misunderstandings about the event, including concerns that it might be sexual, and how the waiver and initiation process help self-select participants.
• The episode explores arousal in a nonsexual container and the importance of acknowledging bodily responses without acting on them.
• Jule describes how the space can help people who struggle with receiving, belonging, or trusting others.

Jule's Bio

Jule Rochelle is a trauma-empowered Sexologist and Intimacy Coach certified in the Somatica® Method, with a background in somatics, bodywork and sacred sexuality. She is passionate about creating safe, consent-centred spaces where people can explore the full spectrum of physical intimacy, from platonic touch and cuddling to sensual and erotic connection. In 2022, she founded The Cuddle Project as a response to the isolation of COVID, social distancing, and an increasingly digital world, creating opportunities for authentic human connection through nurturing, non-sexual touch. Through her coaching and community events, Jule has supported hundreds of people in cultivating self-acceptance, emotional intelligence, secure connections, and more embodied, fulfilling lives.

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Uncensored U The Sex Ed Podcast, Season 3 Episode 5 Part 2 w/ Gowry Kaliyiluvila Rajesh

This episode continues the conversation with Gowry, focusing on the hands-on prevention and consent education happening on campus. The discussion covers bystander intervention, consent education, healthy relationships, and how student-facing programming is shaped by what students are actually asking and struggling with.Gowry also shares what Reach Day looks like, how first-year students are introduced to safety and support, and why events like Consent Week, Sexual Health Week, and Take Back the Night matter for building a healthier campus culture.

Key topics

• In this episode, Gowry explains Reach Day, a first-year training initiative built around bystander intervention, healthy socializing, and community support.
• She shares that the first eight weeks in post-secondary are a red zone for sexual violence because students are navigating a new environment, new expectations, and new social dynamics.
• The team reached about 900 students across 18 Reach Day sessions, introducing the basics of bystander intervention and campus support options.
• Gowry highlights a common misconception students have, which is that support is only available if they formally report. Part of the work is showing that students can access care without filing a formal report.
• The conversation breaks down the Waves of Change program, including a basic module and an advanced module that explores power, privilege, and scenario-based intervention practice.
• Gowry says student leaders and athletes often do not realize how much influence they have until they work through the advanced training.
• The episode previews Consent Week, including residence outreach, a movie night, Take Back the Night, and Healing Blooms, a reflection and connection event in the Hub.
• Sexual Health Week is also in development, with student educators creating activities that include red flag and green flag conversations around relationships.
• Gowry describes how the Love Me or Love Me Not activity helps students identify relationship behaviors that are healthy, unhealthy, or worth discussing further.
• The discussion closes with advice for students new to relationships: boundary setting is not selfishness, and communicating a disagreement can actually make a relationship healthier.

Key frameworks

• Waves of Change
  • A prevention and education model with a foundational module and a more advanced module focused on power, privilege, and real-world scenarios.
• Bystander intervention
  • Students learn how to notice potential harm, step in safely, and support someone who may be at risk.
• Enthusiastic consent
  • Consent is framed as clear, active yes, with attention to verbal and nonverbal cues, body language, and the ability to stop or change course at any time.

Notable quotes

• "If you want to have like a healthy relationship, you should have a better boundary setting."
• "Pleasure is like an underrated concept."
• "You can still access the support and you can still have that support in health and counseling."