what happens when one woman's story feels painfully familiar to millions of others?

a note before listening: this episode includes conversations about rape, sexual violence, trauma, and the ways survivors are often scrutinized in the aftermath. please take care of yourself while listening—or come back to this conversation another time.

in this solo episode, angie returns to what she said with a conversation she's known she needed to have, but one that hasn't been easy to begin.

reflecting on a recent sexual assault case in the news, angie shares how watching another young woman's experience be questioned, analyzed, and debated has brought her back to her own experience of sexual assault—and to the realities so many survivors face in its aftermath. she talks about the expectation of a "perfect victim," the many ways our bodies and minds respond to trauma, and why reporting sexual violence can ask survivors to surrender some of the most private and painful parts of their lives to public scrutiny.

but this conversation isn't only about what happens after sexual violence. it's also about what we can do differently.

angie reflects on raising a teenage son and why preventing sexual violence has to mean teaching boys far more than simply "don't rape." it means conversations about consent, bodily autonomy, emotional regulation, respect, accountability, and the responsibility to challenge other men when something isn't right. it also means refusing to place the burden of preventing sexual violence entirely on women and girls.

in this episode:

• why there is no "perfect" way for a survivor to respond to trauma
• the scrutiny survivors can face after sexual violence
• why so many assaults are never reported
• angie's own experience with sexual assault and its aftermath
• knowing when to step away from difficult news and take care of yourself
• moving through rage, grief, helplessness, and hope
• what we need to teach boys about consent and bodily autonomy
• teaching young men to challenge harmful behavior in other men
• taking the burden of preventing sexual violence off women and girls
• why survivors never owe anyone their stories
• the power of speaking when and if we are ready
• choosing to believe that talking about these things can help change them

nearly one in five women in the u.s. has experienced rape in her lifetime. these aren't stories belonging to some distant group of women. they are our sisters, our mothers, our daughters, our friends and coworkers.

they are us. we are jane doe.

and still, angie doesn't want to end this conversation in hopelessness.

survivors are talking. parents can teach differently. men can hold other men accountable. communities can choose to protect people instead of protecting their image. and those who are ready to tell their stories can help someone else feel a little less alone.

thank you for being here—and, as always, take really good care of yourself. 🤍

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what if the next chapter doesn't require you to rush into it?

in this shorty episode, angie checks in after ten weeks of what she said to reflect on where the show has been, where it's going, and the fullness of the season she's in right now.

she shares what's changing at what she said—including a slower rhythm, some familiar voices returning as co-hosts, and more space for the deeper, wider conversations she's been craving. after a brief september break, the show will return in october with a slightly new iteration and plenty more to explore.

angie also shares what's unfolding beyond the podcast: growing her business alongside one of her best friends, turning her former airbnb into a new office and podcast studio, approaching 50, preparing for her son to eventually leave for college, and finding herself surrounded by friendships and relationships that make this particular season feel especially full.

in this shorty:

• reflecting on the first ten weeks of what she said
• why the show is shifting toward deeper conversations and familiar voices
• giving herself permission to move away from a weekly schedule
• the women and friendships holding different versions of her through life's seasons
• growing a business alongside a best friend
• creating a new home for the podcast
• approaching 50 with excitement instead of dread
• making room for change while staying present for what's here now
• why this chapter feels much more like a beginning than an ending

consider this the end of a little season one—and a glimpse of what's coming next.

thank you for being here, for listening, and for growing alongside us. we'll see you in october. 🤍

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what if we gave ourselves a little more grace for doing all of this for the first time?

a note before listening: this conversation includes discussions of depression, mental health treatment, sexual assault, and childhood sexual abuse. please take care of yourself while listening.

in this episode, angie sits down with her friend mindy kordash-shim for an honest conversation about motherhood, mental health, friendship, healing, and learning to hold a little more compassion for yourself along the way.

mindy shares how becoming a mother of two challenged her sense of identity, the depression that followed, and her experience seeking help after other treatments weren't giving her the relief she needed. she opens up about undergoing transcranial magnetic stimulation (tms), what it felt like to slowly come back to herself, and the importance of continuing to look for support when something isn't working.

the conversation also moves into some of the harder experiences mindy has carried throughout her life, including sexual assault, the ways she learned to push those experiences down, and what it has looked like to revisit them as an adult and a mother. through it all, mindy reflects on friendship, speaking your truth, and finding compassion without minimizing the harm we've experienced.

in this episode:

• the identity shift that can come with motherhood
• giving yourself grace when parenting feels hard
• the importance of friendships where you can say the hard things out loud
• mindy's experience with depression and seeking treatment
• her experience with transcranial magnetic stimulation (tms)
• recognizing what it feels like to begin coming back to yourself
• processing past trauma at a different stage of life
• speaking honestly about harm instead of keeping quiet for the comfort of others
• navigating differences with the people we love
• holding compassion for ourselves and the complicated humanity of others

mindy's reminder is a simple one we could probably all use: this is your first time doing this. you deserve to have a soft spot for yourself.

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