In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Dr. Sara Reardon, board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist, founder of The Vagina Whisperer, and author of Floored, to talk about the muscles 68% of postmenopausal women say no one ever taught them they had. Nearly 1 in 3 women lives with a pelvic floor disorder — urinary leakage, prolapse, pain with sex — and the US spends over $20 billion a year managing it rather than fixing it, while women are offered a device, surgery, or “just live with it.” Dr. Reardon explains why leaking isn’t just part of being a woman, why diapers aren’t your destiny, and why these symptoms are treatable at every age.

Dr. Reardon walks through what happens at a pelvic floor PT appointment (you can self-refer in every US state, covered by insurance), why over 50% of women do Kegels incorrectly — and why Kegels alone were never the answer — the difference between a weak and a too-tight pelvic floor, and stress vs. urge incontinence. They dig into night-time bathroom trips and the fall-and-fracture risk nobody connects to them, why vaginal estrogen should be prescribed proactively — including the study showing it cut recurrent UTIs from 5.9 infections per patient-year to 0.5 — the truth about prolapse (half of women over 50 have some degree of it), what to ask before consenting to any prolapse repair, and the vaginal mesh scandal. Framed throughout by Mary Claire’s own mother’s story: three failed incontinence surgeries, decades of leaking, and the hip fracture after which she never walked again.

Guest links:
Dr. Sara Reardon / The Vagina Whisperer (Website) https://www.thevagwhisperer.com/
Dr. Sara Reardon (Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/the.vagina.whisperer/

Books:
“Floored: A Woman’s Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage,” by Dr. Sara Reardon https://www.thevagwhisperer.com/floored
“The New Perimenopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://thepauselife.com/pages/the-new-perimenopause-book
“The New Menopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CKBZ4K1Z

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In this episode of unPAUSED, pulled from the archive because it’s one worth hearing again, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Dr. Rachel Rubin, board-certified urologist, nationally recognized expert in sexual medicine, assistant clinical professor of urology at Georgetown University, and a lead advocate behind the 2025 American Urological Association guidelines on genitourinary syndrome of menopause. The conversation starts with the number that explains everything: three training programs in the last three years even acknowledge women’s sexual health — men have more than 27. The reason your doctor doesn’t know how to talk to you about libido, arousal, orgasm, or pain is that no one ever taught them.

Dr. Rubin delivers the anatomy lesson medicine skipped — why the clitoris and penis are the same tissue, why the cervix is triply innervated despite being taught as nerve-free, and why “my orgasm changed after my hysterectomy” is biology, not psychology. They cover why sex should never hurt and pain always deserves a diagnosis, the vulvar vestibule tissue most doctors were never taught to examine, the hormone changes that start in your 30s — not at menopause — and the case Dr. Rubin has built her career on: vaginal estrogen and DHEA prevent more than half of UTIs and could save Medicare an estimated $6–22 billion a year. Plus the medications that quietly affect sexual function, the two FDA-approved drugs for low libido most women have never heard of, and the five hormone options every woman deserves to know are on her menu.

Guest links:
Dr. Rachel Rubin (Website) https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/
Dr. Rachel Rubin (Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/drrachelrubin/
Dr. Rachel Rubin (X) https://x.com/drrachelrubin

Books:
“The New Perimenopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://thepauselife.com/pages/the-new-perimenopause-book
“The New Menopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CKBZ4K1Z

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In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with entrepreneur Mark Cuban, cofounder of the Mark Cuban Cost Plus Drug Company, to unpack the estrogen patch shortage and why so many women in perimenopause and menopause struggle to find and afford hormone therapy. Holding up her own patch, Dr. Haver asks the question her patients keep asking: why is this so hard to get? Mark explains why the shortage hit so hard — patches require specialized manufacturing that pills don't, demand surged after the black box warning was removed, and supply couldn't keep up — plus how Cost Plus Drugs has worked to buy every patch manufacturers can produce, and who gets served first when a generic drug runs short.

Then they take apart how drug prices are really set: how pharmacy benefit managers (PBMs) decide what your insurance covers, how rebates drive list prices higher, and why a handful of conglomerates now own the insurer, the pharmacy, the PBM, and the physician practice all at once. They compare what a generic estradiol patch costs to make against what many women pay at retail, cover Dr. Haver's case for vaginal estrogen as one of the most affordable treatments in menopause care, why there's still no FDA-approved testosterone for women, how untreated symptoms push women out of the workforce, and the playbook for lowering your prescription costs — from 90-day supplies to comparing cash prices with your copay.

Guest links:
Mark Cuban Companies https://markcubancompanies.com/
Cost Plus Drug Company https://www.costplusdrugs.com/
Mark Cuban (Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/mcuban/
Mark Cuban (X) https://x.com/mcuban

Books:
"The New Perimenopause," by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://thepauselife.com/pages/the-new-perimenopause-book
"The New Menopause," by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CKBZ4K1Z

Articles:
Menopausal Hormone Therapy Use Among Postmenopausal Women (JAMA) https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama-health-forum/fullarticle/2823976