In our introductory episode of en(gender)ed, we address the what, how and why en(gender)ed exists and the purpose it serves in illuminating and informing our listeners of the myriad of ways gender-based violence and oppression is manifest in our society.

We will address how we hope hearing from survivors, advocates and policy makers about these issues can be used as a source of information, inspiration and action for our listeners. Thank you for visiting us and we hope you can stay with us on this journey of learning and discovery.

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On this episode, our guest is Evan Stark, a sociologist and forensic social worker who has been working at the interface of feminist activism, child welfare, health research and justice reform since he and his wife Anne Flitcraft, MD helped found one of the earliest Shelters for battered women in l970's. His prize winning book Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life (Oxford, 2007) helped stimulate the new crime of "coercive and controlling behavior" throughout the United Kingdom and helped broaden the conversation in the United States.

His new book "What about the Children?" documents the many ways that abusive partners coercively control children and how children respond, holding that it is imperative to treat coercive control as a spectrum. We will be speaking with Evan about domestic violence and coercive control and unpack some of the myths of domestic abuse and how batterers harm. We hope you will find this helpful in understanding those in your who may be engaging in these tactics and how best to respond and to stay safe.

You can read more about Evan's background here and download a summary of his work on coercive control here.

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On this episode, our guest is Phyllis B. Frank, the Senior Director of VCS, a mental health counseling and family service agency located in Rockland County, with an anti-racist, social justice mission. Phyllis has dedicated herself to the battered women's movement for the past 40 plus years, starting the first NY Model for Batterer Programs.

Phyllis shares with us her journey over the past four and a half decades from volunteer counselor to battered women's activist to social justice legend. She is here to talk to us about the program and its impact, shortcomings of the program, and other ways in which we can strengthen our systems to hold abusers accountable to their actions and keep survivors and their children safe.

During our show, Phyllis and I spoke about a variety of topics and thought it would be helpful to share links to those references and resources:

• Effectiveness of Batterer Intervention Programs
• Best Practices for Batterer Intervention Programs
• The Emerge Website explaining why Anger Management is not appropriate for Batterers/Abusers

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On our show today, our guest is Ruth M. Glenn, the CEO and President of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV). Previously Ms. Glenn was employed by the Colorado Department of Human Services for 28 years and served as the Director of the Domestic Violence Program (DVP) for the last nine of those years. Ruth has worked and volunteered in the domestic violence field for over 25 years and holds a Masters' in Public Administration (MPA) from the University of Colorado Denver, Program on Domestic Violence, as well as a BA in Communications.

Ms. Glenn has served on many domestic violence program and funding boards, provided hundreds of presentations on domestic violence victimization and survival, testified before the Colorado state legislature and the United States Congress, and provided consultation, training and technical assistance on a local and national level on victim/survivor issues as they relate to domestic violence. As a survivor, Ruth also often shares her experience to bring awareness about the dynamics of domestic violence.

She is here with us on this episode to talk to us about the work she does at the NCADV and to debunk commonly held myths of survivors and abusers and how survivors and advocates like herself can play a vital role in the crafting of a national narrative in this work that is inclusive, empowering and impactful. We will be speaking with Ruth about the NCADV's role in the creation of the DisarmDV website and partnership which will address gun violence prevention and reform in America, the role of the media in reporting on domestic violence and in particular, its role in gun violence, and her thoughts on the intersection of race, class and gender as it has played out in the NFL's DV and kneeling policies.

Here are links to some of the references we discussed in the course of our conversation:

LA Times headline for the Santa Fe Shooting

And here is a tweeter commenting on the #genderbias in the reporting of the incident:

...and the media's downplaying of the shooter's abusive childhood, which is often minimized or erased as part of #massshooter media coverage.

Here is the letter that Ruth wrote to Sarah Palin when her son, Track, was arrested on domestic violence charges and Ms. Palin blamed President Obama and mental illness as the reason for his behavior.

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On this first episode of the series we call #SurvivorStories, we introduce the hashtags #abusertactics, #signsofabuse and #upstandertips to shed light on the multitude of ways in which abuse, power and control, or coercive control dynamics can manifest in a relationship. Our goal is to help develop a cultural literacy around recognizing abuse of power.

A common vocabulary and language can help all of us act more effectively and more responsibly when survivors in our lives reveal themselves to us. By understanding better the ways in which oppression is manifest in personal relationships, we can better recognize it when it shows up in our schools, in our workplaces, in our churches, in our popular culture and news, and in the rhetoric and practices that come from our elected officials and in law and in policy.

If we connect the dots, we can see the intersectionality and roots of all oppression, linked. We can better recognize it in ourselves. It will help us better parents, supervisors, daughters, sons, friends, and neighbors. Hopefully, this greater awareness will create more compassion, more understanding, and deeper connectedness in our relationships. It will, in turn, move us further into the light. We will, then, become the solutions that we seek.

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On this episode, our guest is Nancy S. Erickson, (J.D. Brooklyn Law School, LL.M. Yale Law School, M.A. Forensic Psychology John Jay College of Criminal Justice), a consultant on issues relating to law and psychology, particularly child custody evaluations and domestic violence. Nancy's career spans over a decade of teaching law at top law schools in the country, eight years at Legal Services, and decades in private practice representing survivors of domestic violence. Nancy has written books and articles on family law, including domestic violence, child support, custody, marital property, attorneys for children, custody evaluations, and adoption.

She is currently researching and writing on custody issues, especially custody evaluations, laws regarding custody in cases where there has been domestic violence, and the use of parental alienation theories against parents who are attempting to protect their children or themselves from abuse. We will be speaking with Nancy about her work and research on child custody evaluations, due process challenges the evaluations pose, and its impact on shaping safety outcomes for women and children in court. We will also be speaking with Nancy about a recent case she contributed to that, on its surface, has positive implications for both same-sex parents and for domestic violence victims.

Here are some of the links to the articles we discussed on our show, including the same-sex custody case Nancy contributed to:

• Gender Bias in the Family Courts and the epidemic of courts giving custody of at least 58,000 children a year to abusers
• ProPublica article on the Lack of Oversight of Child Custody Evaluators
• ProPublica article on how NY parents fight lack of right to see 'expert' custody reports
• The Brooke SB v Elizabeth CC case

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Greetings en(gender)ed listeners:

We are sharing a new format episode where my friend Michael joins me as we reflect back on the first six episodes of the podcast. Michael and I used to work together and served many students who were not in school or not working and were looking to develop skills to go back to school or to find a job.

The young people we were helping often had their systemic barriers exacerbated by personal conflict in their lives that were difficult to manage, such as parents who didn't prioritize their education or work over their care-taking responsibilities, or romantic partners who were not helping to parent, didn't support their efforts to better themselves, and/or engaged in deliberate patterns of behavior to sabotage their school and/or work.

I was interested in Michael's perspective on the topics covered in our shows so far, especially since the majority of listeners are, not suprisingly, female. I hope you will find this episode engaging and, for the male listeners, an entree into your own exploration of what en(gender)ed has to offer you.

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