Are you still holding onto anger or resentment towards your ex? Drew Henry dives into why harboring hate for an ex is a major red flag and how it impacts your ability to find healthy relationships. Learn practical insights on moving past emotional baggage, recognizing unresolved feelings, and ultimately, why indifference is the goal when it comes to exes.

Main Topics:

• The emotional toll of hating your ex and why it’s toxic
• How long it really takes to get over someone (study insights)
• The importance of forgetting vs. hating your ex
• Red flags to watch for when dating after a breakup
• Strategies for shifting focus from removal to addition in life
• Why making hatred your identity is detrimental in relationships
• The power of indifference over hate in emotional closure

Timestamps:

00:00 - The red flag: still hating your ex is worse than being in love

00:22 - Why hating your ex could be a sign you're not over them 01:26 - Study reveals it takes twice as long to get over an ex as the time you were together

02:38 - How ADHD brains might get over exes faster due to object permanence

04:52 - The story of forgetting an ex quickly after moving on 06:28 - Red flags for unresolved emotions about an ex

07:54 - Why hating your ex points to unresolved feelings 08:50 - Red flag: hate becomes your entire personality

10:01 - Ramona Flowers’ example of making hatred an identity

11:39 - Recognizing when your ex dominates every conversation 12:25 - The difference between forgetting and dwelling—Taylor Swift’s perspective

14:08 - How to stop hating and start moving on

14:59 - Why fixating on stripping away your ex only intensifies your thoughts about them

15:58 - Focus on filling your life with new activities instead of removal

17:32 - The importance of making peace with letting go 18:32 - The opposite of love is indifference, not hate

19:01 - Final thoughts: Leaving your ex behind with indifference

Resources & Links:

• How Long It Really Takes to Get Over an Ex - Psychology Today

Connect with Drew:

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