In this episode of Healing Doesn’t Have to Hurt, April and Andrea unpack thought distortions—those automatic, convincing thoughts we accept as absolute truth without ever questioning. From “I’ll never be good at this” to “They must be mad at me,” they explore how distorted thinking shapes our behavior, limits our lives, and keeps us stuck in survival mode.

Through relatable examples, humor, and honest self-reflection (including a memorable Rubik’s Cube story), they break down common distortions like all-or-nothing thinking, catastrophizing, mind reading, emotional reasoning, personalization, and “should” statements. They explain why these patterns form, how they’re passed down through families and culture, and how the brain uses them as a way to stay safe—not necessarily to help us grow.

The conversation also offers practical tools for recognizing when you’re in a distortion, including noticing extremes, negative self-talk, and body-based signals of shutdown. April and Andrea share gentle ways to interrupt distorted thinking through awareness, curiosity, grounding exercises, and choosing thoughts that feel kinder and more regulating—rather than harsher or punishing.

This episode is an invitation to loosen your grip on thoughts that feel true but may not be accurate, and to discover how much more possibility opens up when you stop believing everything you think.