In this powerful conversation, Alex sits down with Body Confidence & Empowerment Coach Becky Jones to explore one of the biggest confidence blockers for women: sizing, body image and the narratives we’ve absorbed about our worth.

Together, they unpack how the fashion industry, 90s diet culture, and years of conditioning have shaped the way women judge themselves by a number on a label, and how we can finally let that go.

Becky shares her own journey of breaking free from “the numbers”, why so many women still hold on to outdated ideals, and how identity, beliefs, and self-compassion can shift how we see and dress ourselves.

Alex brings in her sustainable style perspective, discussing how body acceptance, dressing with intention, and reconnecting with your true style identity can radically transform confidence, without changing your body at all.

This episode is a gentle but transformative reminder that your worth is not defined by your size, and that both mindset and mindful style can help you reconnect with the woman you are today.

Highlights:

00:01 Why sizing is one of the biggest confidence wobblers for women

00:39 Becky on “magic numbers”, 90s diet culture and tying worth to weight

03:21 Alex on inconsistent sizing on the high street and why the problem isn’t your body

06:13 The shoe-size analogy that helps women detach from clothing labels

07:30 Breaking limiting beliefs: “Is this story actually true, or just inherited?”

10:57 Alex on “New Year, New You” and why you don’t need fixing

11:24 Becky’s identity-and-values work to tune out toxic transformation culture

15:25 Reclaiming childlike experimentation with style (and why you can’t “get it wrong”)

19:29 “You can’t out-exercise a poor relationship with your body” – why mindset comes first

22:53 Becky’s own style story: from shrinking at school to mixing grunge, vintage and goth

29:01 Alex on authentic style, leadership presence and connecting with your audience

35:29 The binge–restrict loop, and how a gentler approach leads to lasting change

41:35 Alex on using clothes, colour and “best pieces” as a fast confidence reset

43:53 Anchor points and 20-minute workouts: realistic self-care when life is full

💡 Takeaways

• Old beliefs about your body can be challenged, not just tolerated.
• Your body will change through seasons of life – and that’s normal.
• Confidence grows faster when you dress for who you are now.
• Style can be a wellbeing tool, not a source of pressure.
• Experimenting with clothes builds self-trust, not “mistakes”.
• Small anchors and daily habits keep you grounded when confidence dips.
  

Connect with Becky:

https://www.instagram.com/the_empower_coach/

https://join.theempowercoach.com/empower

Book A Free Style Strategy Call:

https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk/service-page/style-strategy-call

Connect with Alex:

https://www.alexandrastandley.co.uk

https://www.instagram.com/alexandrastandley