Michelle Isabell is one of Kansas City's top agents. Nine years in the business, 25 to 30 homes a year, built almost entirely on relationships and on being unapologetically herself. But this conversation is not really about real estate.

At two, her mom walked out. At seven, the grandparents who raised her stepped back and disappeared for a year. At 18, her mother left her in a small town north of Omaha with a high school diploma and no plan.

So she married the first person who picked her. "I saw all the red flags and blew through every one of them. I was just so happy that someone was picking me."

Thirteen years. Three kids she was told she could never have. Survival mode, where the whole day came down to "I just need to make sure you make it to tomorrow."

Then one undone load of laundry ended the marriage and cracked her life wide open. Within months she paid off every dollar of debt, went full time in real estate, and finally said the thing she had known since she was a teenager: I'm gay.

In this episode: why your intuition gets quieter every time you ignore it, how one different decision opens up decisions you could not see, what coming out in her thirties cost her and gave her, and why "you are your own glass ceiling."

If you are stuck in the cement wondering how anyone pulls their feet out, this one is for you.

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